A few people have asked me for my Bedroom Jamz playlist so I decided to publish it here just because :) This is the playlist currently......It always changes but I keep it under 30 songs. Hope you enjoy!
Bedroom Jamz....WARNING!! Do not listen while at work
1. Til the Cops Come Knocking Maxwell
2. Whip Appeal Babyface
3. In the Morning Urban Mystic
4. Calling Me Raheem DeVaughn
5. Let me Make Love to You The O'Jays
6. Crown Royal Jill Scott
7. Beautiful Me'Shell Ndegecello
8. Whenever, Wherever, Whatever Maxwell
9. Hey Now Carl Thomas
10. With You Marsha Ambrosius
11. Best Part of the Day Urban Mystic
12. Love Me Down Freddie Jackson
13. Freak N' You Jodeci
14. Lick Joi
15. #!'@ You Tonight Biggie Smalls & R. Kelly
16. If Only for One Night Luther Vandross
17. Love Won't Let Me Wait Luther Vandross
18. Love Scene Joe
19. Come & Go With Me Teddy Pendegrass
20. Love's Greatest Episode Joe
21. Meeting in My Bedroom Silk
22. Sweet Love Anita Baker
23. Don't Let Go EnVogue
24. You Jesse Powell
25. Don't Say No Just Say Yes Avant
26. 12 Play R. Kelly
I will post my Sunday Morning Shoutin, Heartbreak Brown Liquor, Kanye's Workout Plan and If This Ain't Love playlists later this week :)
Wednesday, January 16, 2013
Tuesday, January 15, 2013
Education, Service and Relationships
Because I consider myself an armchair psychologist and a cross between Dr. Phil, Iyanla and sometimes Sister Souljah, I love analyzing others and analyzing myself. And as I was preparing for my 2013, I spent a LOT of time in reflection on areas in my life where I wanted to concentrate. I came up with relationships, education and service. After so much tragedy and witnessing a lost generation, I knew I wanted to do more for my community, so I set out an intentional and focused plan on areas where I thought I could be beneficial. That was easy. I also knew that I had future goals for my career and creating sources of supplemental income, so I researched and planned courses and opportunities for me to sharpen my skills in order to have the life I desire. That was also easy.
The real work came in my dealings with relationships. I desire to continue and to grow the friendships I currently have, be more available and present with my family, and to mentally and emotionally prepare myself for a relationship with a life partner. So why is this such hard work for me? Because in order to be purposeful and intentional in improving ME, I have to be honest and truthful in why this area is important and needs work.
It was easy diagnosing why education and service was important and needed work . They just hadn't been focused on for several years as time, other interests and job stabilization got in the way. And as I saw people around me who needed help, I HAD to do something. And now that I am happy and comfortable with my job, I knew it was time to push and challenge myself to greater levels.....to really use my talents in a way that will help me live the life I desire. It was a no brainer. But identifying my breakdown of close relationships was much harder........because it can be painful to look inside.
Here's what I discovered: I love HARD. And when you love that hard and people leave, or change, or you outgrow, or they make bad decisions it is painful to endure. It's like some one stole a little piece of you, and you long for and reminisce about they way it used to be. And many times when you are building these relationships, you get rejected. Your services are not wanted. So under the guise of "minding my business" I haven't always formed the most connected relationships. While I have gotten much better at it from growth and working on other parts of me, I don't make being connected a priority. And when it's all said and done, I want to be known as a good daughter, sister, friend and confidante but I am not doing the WORK it takes to become that. Not in the way I desire to be.....all emotional, all compassionate, and all introspective. So I have decided to instead of letting people know how I feel about them and what they mean to me, to SHOW them. To repair broken relationships, to let broken relationships go, to focus on people who focus on me and stop devoting time and attention to those who don't. And that's a hard task for a people pleaser like me :) But in the short time that I have made this a focused priority, I have gained SOOOOO much more than I have lost.
This lends itself directly to me preparing myself for dating, love, romance and all that other gushy stuff :) So paramount that I will say it again: To repair broken relationships, to let broken relationships go, to focus on people who focus on me and stop devoting time and attention to those who don't.
The real work came in my dealings with relationships. I desire to continue and to grow the friendships I currently have, be more available and present with my family, and to mentally and emotionally prepare myself for a relationship with a life partner. So why is this such hard work for me? Because in order to be purposeful and intentional in improving ME, I have to be honest and truthful in why this area is important and needs work.
It was easy diagnosing why education and service was important and needed work . They just hadn't been focused on for several years as time, other interests and job stabilization got in the way. And as I saw people around me who needed help, I HAD to do something. And now that I am happy and comfortable with my job, I knew it was time to push and challenge myself to greater levels.....to really use my talents in a way that will help me live the life I desire. It was a no brainer. But identifying my breakdown of close relationships was much harder........because it can be painful to look inside.
Here's what I discovered: I love HARD. And when you love that hard and people leave, or change, or you outgrow, or they make bad decisions it is painful to endure. It's like some one stole a little piece of you, and you long for and reminisce about they way it used to be. And many times when you are building these relationships, you get rejected. Your services are not wanted. So under the guise of "minding my business" I haven't always formed the most connected relationships. While I have gotten much better at it from growth and working on other parts of me, I don't make being connected a priority. And when it's all said and done, I want to be known as a good daughter, sister, friend and confidante but I am not doing the WORK it takes to become that. Not in the way I desire to be.....all emotional, all compassionate, and all introspective. So I have decided to instead of letting people know how I feel about them and what they mean to me, to SHOW them. To repair broken relationships, to let broken relationships go, to focus on people who focus on me and stop devoting time and attention to those who don't. And that's a hard task for a people pleaser like me :) But in the short time that I have made this a focused priority, I have gained SOOOOO much more than I have lost.
This lends itself directly to me preparing myself for dating, love, romance and all that other gushy stuff :) So paramount that I will say it again: To repair broken relationships, to let broken relationships go, to focus on people who focus on me and stop devoting time and attention to those who don't.
Tuesday, January 8, 2013
33 Things Before 34
The holidays were SUPER busy and I have not been able to update my blog about my experiences, growth, adventures and insightful revelations!! But there's been a'plenty....and I can't wait to share them with you. For starters, here is my list of 33 things I plan on doing before I turn 34 in December of 2013. These are mainly focused on relationships, education and service and are designed to take me out of my comfort zone, unleash hidden potential or just for fun. What do you think?
1. Create guest room and literary lounge
2. Get certification
3. Take blogging/writing class
4. Take a make-up class
5. Call family & friends on way to gym and Food Lion
6. Have a carb free and/or meatless day once a week
7. Chair a committee (AKA/JLC/etc..)
8. Organize all closets
9. Take MH on a trip
10. Visit Houston, Fayetteville AR, D.C.
11. Send 2 thinking of you cards monthly
12. Adopt a family for entire year
13. Take advanced excel classes
14. Go to 2 city council and black chamber of commerce meetings
15. Ask some one out on a date
16. Host parlor meeting/power lunches (3 total)
17. Dr. Oz 3 day cleanse
18. Create travel, family, special moments memory book
19. Send Valentine's letters
20. Buy Rosetta Stone Spanish
21. Ramblin Rose triathlon training program
22. Host a Panther tailgate
23. Purge desks and drawers
24. Go ice skating
25. Become a mentor
26. Research and take steps to sit on a board
27. Take a mental health day once a month
28. Start steps for "Network & Connections" idea
29. Donate to both Alma maters
30. Go to social event where I won't know anyone by myself
31. Increase my PIE professionally
32. Plan special event for girlfriend
33. Host 3 things at my house
1. Create guest room and literary lounge
2. Get certification
3. Take blogging/writing class
4. Take a make-up class
5. Call family & friends on way to gym and Food Lion
6. Have a carb free and/or meatless day once a week
7. Chair a committee (AKA/JLC/etc..)
8. Organize all closets
9. Take MH on a trip
10. Visit Houston, Fayetteville AR, D.C.
11. Send 2 thinking of you cards monthly
12. Adopt a family for entire year
13. Take advanced excel classes
14. Go to 2 city council and black chamber of commerce meetings
15. Ask some one out on a date
16. Host parlor meeting/power lunches (3 total)
17. Dr. Oz 3 day cleanse
18. Create travel, family, special moments memory book
19. Send Valentine's letters
20. Buy Rosetta Stone Spanish
21. Ramblin Rose triathlon training program
22. Host a Panther tailgate
23. Purge desks and drawers
24. Go ice skating
25. Become a mentor
26. Research and take steps to sit on a board
27. Take a mental health day once a month
28. Start steps for "Network & Connections" idea
29. Donate to both Alma maters
30. Go to social event where I won't know anyone by myself
31. Increase my PIE professionally
32. Plan special event for girlfriend
33. Host 3 things at my house
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