Ain't Nobody got Time for Dat!!!

This is a very personal list for me..........might not speak to you but some things I just had to express. 

Ain't nobody got time for your insecurities........I have enough of my own that I am trying to get over and deal with.  Don't project yours on me to the tune of  "why are you doing that?" "you're going by yourself?" "how come you don't JUST....?"

Ain't nobody got time for you counting MY change........I admit I like nice things and am a proud flag carrier for the bougie committee but I have NEVER asked you to support any of my habits so don't worry about how much my handbag, shoes, beauty treatments etc cost

Ain't nobody got time for your complaining......I understand the need to vent every now and again, but that constant moaning and whining about EVERYTHING is just annoying

Ain't nobody got time for your religious debates........I am a child of the King and can't help but be amazed and in awe about what He does for me everyday.  However, I will not push it down your throat or try to convince you in any way.  I just live my life and treat everyone with courtesy and respect and expect you to do the same.  I won't share my testimony unless you ask me to

Ain't nobody got time for your concept of family.......when I say she is my mother and he is my brother, that's exactly what I mean. I have no problem and welcome you asking questions to get understanding, but you will not refer to them as "step" or "half" or "fake" or "real" with me.  Do that under your breath

Ain't nobody got time for you to use them......I know I put myself out there to be used at times, but when you take advantage and don't have any reciprocation.......just SMH.  Thankfully, I have always been given back pressed down, shaken together and running over from other sources :)

Ain't nobody got time for your uncompromising ways.....we can't always get what we want, and as nice as I am, I NEVER coddle.  That's too early for you, ok I'll see you when you get there. You don't want to pay that much, ok we'll get together next time.  You don't eat any of this food, did you pack a snack?  Oh, I'm sorry you'll have to wait. 

Ain't nobody got time to wait on you to decide how you feel about me.......to steal the words from Harold Melvin and the Blue Notes (AKA Teddy Pendegrass :) "if you don't know me by now, you will never ever know me"  Truth is, you know exactly how you feel!! 

Words for Women from Dr. Phil.........with tidbits from me :)

This is advice Dr. Phil gave to women a couple of years ago.  It really spoke to me then and still does now so I wanted to share.  Ramblings, foolywang and nonsensical comments in red are from me.  LOL!  Enjoy

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay..

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.  - he is not that busy, nor is he that stressed..he just don't want you.  Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.

Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't 'be friends'. A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.  - HALLELUJAH!!   Don't settle.

If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is
Don't stay because you think 'it will get better'
You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you. - WOW! 
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. - Shawty Lo....hahahahaha
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything.* He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior.* Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...
Even if he has more education or in a better job.

Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man. - borrow?  hmmmmm
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs. - very true :)  lots of good ones out there
You should not be the one doing all the bending....
Compromise is two way street..

You need time to heal between relationships....
There is nothing cute about baggage....
Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship- PREACH

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...
A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals....
Look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted

Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. - also, never date a man that doesn't have  reliable transportation method

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful.

You should know that:
You're the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he'll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he's not the only one.

They're all watching you, so you have a lot of choices.
Make the right one.

Ladies take care of your own hearts....

Share this with other women and men (just so they know)...

You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare