2011 has been an AMAZING year!! A year of personal and professional growth, a year of tests of will and faith, a year of memories with great friends and family, and a milestone year of contentment with being ME. I am unapologetic ANDREA. Emotional, compassionate, introspective, unintentionally inconsiderate, messy(not to be confused with unclean or dirty or disorganized) laughing, perfume loving, wine and martini loving, junk jewelry loving, mani/pedi loving, scented candle loving, pajama loving, ME. And there is nothing like going home for the holidays to remind me of that.
So for Thanksgiving this year, I spent some time with the MS fam. And by Tuesday I felt like I needed to wear a sign on my forehead that said.....NO, I am not dating anyone special; NO, I don't think its because I cut all my hair; YES, I do like men and find them attractive; and YES, I have gained some weight. LOL! I love my people and if it had not been for their influence, guidance and love I would not be in the place I am today. But at the same time, I live in a VASTLY different society from what they did. You don't HAVE to get married at 20 and have 3 kids by 30 to be considered adjusted or doing something with your life. You don't HAVE to live around blood relatives in order to have people who look out & care for you. You don't have to wait until you're married to purchase a house, or go on trips, or advance in your career. You can do all of that right NOW. And so, to some of my family members I am known as a wanderer, a career person, quiet and lonely. And to others, who have access to facebook, I am known as a busy body, party girl, traveller and silly heart. I don't think either description fits me, but hey I can't be confined to a box : ) And neither can they. As much as my people think they have "traditional" values, they are revolutionaries!!! my grandmother went to college when she was in her late 30's and learned to play piano in her 50's, MH didn't get married until she was 35....you just didn't roll like that back in the day.....2 of my aunts left home on the first train smoking by THEMSELVES...unheard of for their time. So the world is changing and our expectations have to adapt. Or not. We choose.
Thursday, December 8, 2011
Thursday, November 3, 2011
Men Don't do Closure
So today I feel compelled to talk about a topic I know next to nothing about; MEN. LOL. But just because I don't know anything about a topic doesn't stop me from giving my opinion based on nothing but what I have concocted in my head. Word of advice to any single women reading this - don't take my thoughts as any kind of help or advice...I don't know what I'm talking about. LOL. But here goes anyway.
There are only 3 things that I know about men 1) For the most part, they don't go shopping just to browse with no intentions. They have something in mind that they want to buy. 2) When they know what they want, they buy it. If they need a new pair of black slacks and they see a pair of black slacks that they like, fit well and are the right price, they buy it. No need to go looking around for something better. 3) Men don't do closure. Ever. When they are done, they are done.
Since these are the only 3 things that I know for sure, I take this little knowledge and apply it to EVERY dealing I have with the opposite sex. I have nothing else to go on and we all know they don't speak the same language as women, so if they are telling me something different I don't understand it anyway. LOL. So what does this mean in relationships & dating?? How does this knowledge help and guide me?? Let me break it down.....
1)For the most part, they don't go shopping just to browse with no intentions. They have something in mind that they want to buy - when he approaches you he knows what he wants from you; how you respond determines if he puts you back on the shelf, tries you on, or uses you for a different purpose. Whether he's looking at you for a good time girl, some one he wants to get to know, or one night stand he has a plan in mind before he even asks your name. So don't be mad at end of conversation if he doesn't ask for your number, it wasn't going anywhere anyway. And PLEASE don't offer him a sheet of paper & pen when he doesn't ask for it.....just THIRSTY.
2) When they know what they want, they buy it. If they need a new pair of black slacks and they see a pair of black slacks that they like, fit well and are the right price, they buy it. No need to go looking around for something better - if he does not want to be in a serious relationship, I don't care how wonderful you are, its not happening. He's not looking for slacks altho you are a really nice black pair. On the other hand, when he is ready to settle down he looks around him for who can fit the bill and claims her. i know, i know...I hear ya and have heard it all before "what was so wrong with me, i woulda been with him? what's so special about her over me?' now, ignoring any crazy issues that you have that she doesn't...nothing. you are the same. her timing was just better......which leads me to my final certain truth......
3) Men don't do closure. Ever. When they are done, they are done - you will never know what was wrong with you because he won't tell you. maybe it was your fault, maybe it wasn't. maybe he was just scared to love you, but I doubt it. maybe you could have done something differently, maybe not. the only thing you can do is reflect on the choices and decisions you made and move on....trying to figure him out is just wasting your time, because you're probably wrong. LOL
Now I know you are asking, has this advice and knowledge helped me in any way with the opposite sex? no, not really. LOL. but it hasn't hurt me either, so that's gotta count for something. so what compelled me to write about this today? i heard it on the radio this morning that men don't do closure and I laughed and said hallelujah!!! THIS is the one truth that women and men are on TOTAL opposite sides of the spectrum. Personal experience: I have never had a guy "break up" with me. I know, that $h*t cray, but its true. usually become distant and communication slows down and becomes inconsistent. no big argument, no cheating fiasco, just a funny feeling that things have changed. so then I stop calling and give them space and before you know it, its been a month and we haven't seen or spoken to each other. this "closure" thing has never happened. LOL.
So, the next time you go shopping with your boo thang.....observe his actions : )
There are only 3 things that I know about men 1) For the most part, they don't go shopping just to browse with no intentions. They have something in mind that they want to buy. 2) When they know what they want, they buy it. If they need a new pair of black slacks and they see a pair of black slacks that they like, fit well and are the right price, they buy it. No need to go looking around for something better. 3) Men don't do closure. Ever. When they are done, they are done.
Since these are the only 3 things that I know for sure, I take this little knowledge and apply it to EVERY dealing I have with the opposite sex. I have nothing else to go on and we all know they don't speak the same language as women, so if they are telling me something different I don't understand it anyway. LOL. So what does this mean in relationships & dating?? How does this knowledge help and guide me?? Let me break it down.....
1)For the most part, they don't go shopping just to browse with no intentions. They have something in mind that they want to buy - when he approaches you he knows what he wants from you; how you respond determines if he puts you back on the shelf, tries you on, or uses you for a different purpose. Whether he's looking at you for a good time girl, some one he wants to get to know, or one night stand he has a plan in mind before he even asks your name. So don't be mad at end of conversation if he doesn't ask for your number, it wasn't going anywhere anyway. And PLEASE don't offer him a sheet of paper & pen when he doesn't ask for it.....just THIRSTY.
2) When they know what they want, they buy it. If they need a new pair of black slacks and they see a pair of black slacks that they like, fit well and are the right price, they buy it. No need to go looking around for something better - if he does not want to be in a serious relationship, I don't care how wonderful you are, its not happening. He's not looking for slacks altho you are a really nice black pair. On the other hand, when he is ready to settle down he looks around him for who can fit the bill and claims her. i know, i know...I hear ya and have heard it all before "what was so wrong with me, i woulda been with him? what's so special about her over me?' now, ignoring any crazy issues that you have that she doesn't...nothing. you are the same. her timing was just better......which leads me to my final certain truth......
3) Men don't do closure. Ever. When they are done, they are done - you will never know what was wrong with you because he won't tell you. maybe it was your fault, maybe it wasn't. maybe he was just scared to love you, but I doubt it. maybe you could have done something differently, maybe not. the only thing you can do is reflect on the choices and decisions you made and move on....trying to figure him out is just wasting your time, because you're probably wrong. LOL
Now I know you are asking, has this advice and knowledge helped me in any way with the opposite sex? no, not really. LOL. but it hasn't hurt me either, so that's gotta count for something. so what compelled me to write about this today? i heard it on the radio this morning that men don't do closure and I laughed and said hallelujah!!! THIS is the one truth that women and men are on TOTAL opposite sides of the spectrum. Personal experience: I have never had a guy "break up" with me. I know, that $h*t cray, but its true. usually become distant and communication slows down and becomes inconsistent. no big argument, no cheating fiasco, just a funny feeling that things have changed. so then I stop calling and give them space and before you know it, its been a month and we haven't seen or spoken to each other. this "closure" thing has never happened. LOL.
So, the next time you go shopping with your boo thang.....observe his actions : )
Wednesday, October 26, 2011
Random Thoughts
1. Why are contacts so expensive? They are disposable and fragile, should not cost that much. But wearing glasses ALL the time gets on my nerves. Glad I have an HSA.
2. So Dr. Conrad Murray had 7 children by 6 different women, and 4 girlfriends.....whom he started calling at 9:30 AM the day of Michael Jackson's death..... the player game starts that early? 9:30, really??
3. Who ever thought of burpees, sliders and battle ropes should be shot, even if they are already dead. i hate those exercises
4. How are you & your buddy in prison, but you hooking him up with this chic on visitation day? how do you know her? why is she having a blind date at the prison? WTH?
5. Finger waves are out and are never coming back.....hate to tell all these women running around with them still in their hair....its just inappropriate and sad if you are under the age of 65 with finger waves
6. Gets slightly irritated with natural haired women who criticize us unnaturals.....especially when they have natural hair and unnatural everything else......excessively smoking, excessively dranking, raw dogging with natural hair..
7. Can not stop laughing at T.O. in them boy shorts underwear...maybe that's why no one came to his workout session
8. I LOVE the webisodes of awkward black girl........."rap and poetry had a baby named spoken word. I wish I could abort that baby"
9. Jim Harbough is a THUG...who woulda thunk it? Carl Thomas is a THUG too...how can you sing R&B love songs and be thuggish ? .....doesn't go together
10. I'm officially old...went to a house party & they had a fog machine and dimmed lights....I couldn't see a THING...& wanted them to cut music down
2. So Dr. Conrad Murray had 7 children by 6 different women, and 4 girlfriends.....whom he started calling at 9:30 AM the day of Michael Jackson's death..... the player game starts that early? 9:30, really??
3. Who ever thought of burpees, sliders and battle ropes should be shot, even if they are already dead. i hate those exercises
4. How are you & your buddy in prison, but you hooking him up with this chic on visitation day? how do you know her? why is she having a blind date at the prison? WTH?
5. Finger waves are out and are never coming back.....hate to tell all these women running around with them still in their hair....its just inappropriate and sad if you are under the age of 65 with finger waves
6. Gets slightly irritated with natural haired women who criticize us unnaturals.....especially when they have natural hair and unnatural everything else......excessively smoking, excessively dranking, raw dogging with natural hair..
7. Can not stop laughing at T.O. in them boy shorts underwear...maybe that's why no one came to his workout session
8. I LOVE the webisodes of awkward black girl........."rap and poetry had a baby named spoken word. I wish I could abort that baby"
9. Jim Harbough is a THUG...who woulda thunk it? Carl Thomas is a THUG too...how can you sing R&B love songs and be thuggish ? .....doesn't go together
10. I'm officially old...went to a house party & they had a fog machine and dimmed lights....I couldn't see a THING...& wanted them to cut music down
Wednesday, October 5, 2011
When one door closes, another opens. But what do you DO in the hallway?
Whenever you go thru a setback in life, people always say "things will work out for the best", "what's meant to be will be", "gotta go thru a test to get a testimony" and my favorite "when one door closes, another one opens" And I'm not making light or fun of any of these statements but they all leave something out. What do you DO in the hallway? Ok, I can accept that there will be setbacks and such, but as I'm going thru the transition, what do I do to prepare for what's next? So, you know I developed a Top Ten : ) ; ) : )
1. Thoroughly clean your house. It will help de-clutter your mind and give you a sense of clarity
2. Volunteer to help others. Helps put things in perspective.
3. Travel. Even if its just to a quaint B&B 2 hrs away, go see some place new
4. Call family/friends you haven't heard from in a while. Just because : )
5. Take a class. computer, language, etc.... Keep your mind sharp and expand skills
6. Look at yourself naked....may seem weird but start to appreciate everything about YOU
7. Complete a beauty regimen....be it pedi/mani, facial, shopping, alterations...do something vain for you
8. Walk...or any other exercise that you enjoy doing...frees the mind to reflect and plan
9. Do something BOLD! doesn't have to be jumping out of a plane, maybe it's just going to a concert alone
10. Drink a little wine : ) Just because
Thanks Jan Hill..What do you DO in the Hallway?
1. Thoroughly clean your house. It will help de-clutter your mind and give you a sense of clarity
2. Volunteer to help others. Helps put things in perspective.
3. Travel. Even if its just to a quaint B&B 2 hrs away, go see some place new
4. Call family/friends you haven't heard from in a while. Just because : )
5. Take a class. computer, language, etc.... Keep your mind sharp and expand skills
6. Look at yourself naked....may seem weird but start to appreciate everything about YOU
7. Complete a beauty regimen....be it pedi/mani, facial, shopping, alterations...do something vain for you
8. Walk...or any other exercise that you enjoy doing...frees the mind to reflect and plan
9. Do something BOLD! doesn't have to be jumping out of a plane, maybe it's just going to a concert alone
10. Drink a little wine : ) Just because
Thanks Jan Hill..What do you DO in the Hallway?
Friday, September 23, 2011
To be willing, at any moment, to sacrifice who you are for who you could become
Wow...that's good enough to be said twice...."To be willing, at any moment, to sacrifice who you are for who you could become" I'm not sure who said that but I LOVE it. That's a true issue that I have been struggling with lately. In some areas in my life I feel I have become complacent. I'm doing activities but not with a clear focus and end goal in mind...and that's not good. I was talking about this to a friend a while back. We weren't talking about anything in particular, just shooting the breeze, so I don't really know how we started talking about how I view myself. I stated, with true sincerity, that I was shy and wasn't a big risk taker. To that statement he looked at me very confused and started laughing at me. He laughed even harder when he realized that I was for real. Then he responded, "You are NOT shy, and you are NOT scared" We went back and forth for a while as I defended my position. But it was very interesting to hear his view of my personality. He contended that I was not shy because I smiled and spoke to everybody, went a lot of places and did a lot of things by myself, was always on the dance floor and had a lot of friends. And I was definitely a risk taker because I moved to Charlotte by myself without knowing anyone and quit a job right in the heart of the recession without knowing if another one was lined up. WOW...that girl does sound bold and outgoing and daring...but that didn't sound like me.
The truth is, I moved to Charlotte because that's where my job was....I didn't have a choice in the matter. I guess I could have turned the offer down and stayed home to look for a job, but TRUST me, that was the bigger risk. LOL! I smile and speak to everyone because that's how I was raised. It's not really because I want to strike up a conversation with everyone I meet. And as far as quitting my job, again there were only 2 options at the time... move to Cincinnati or quit....quitting seemed like the lesser risk. So outwardly I seem outgoing and appear to be taking life by the horns but that's not what I feel on the inside. I hate walking into a room full of people I don't know; I'll do things outside of my comfort zone like take swim lessons or run a 5K or two but I wouldn't dare chair a significant committee in my sorority or professionals groups. I HATE when people watch me walk into a room. How can all this be true and I not be shy? And furthermore, why is my outward perception so different than what I think of myself?
And I have FINALLY figured it out : ) My struggle is with the POTENTIAL of who I am. Ya'll remember that poem....something about the light.....that we hide our light because we don't want to be different or outshine....is that scripture? Anyway, to the outside world I appear normal and confident and within the accepted lines of society. But I am not normal. What if I would truly let go and utilize the best of me and my talents...could I be so vulnerable to show how emotional I am? could I actually utilize my skill for public speaking and influence and inform people? could I really take my listening skills and arm chair psychologist philosophy to counsel others? Who could I become?
So I urge you to take this journey with me, because I KNOW there are talents you have that can change the world...or at least your community. We are just too shy to be noticed and too scared to have that responsibility. But who are you not to be great?
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God. (Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.)
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us, it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fears, our presence automatically liberates others.
Marianne Williamson
The truth is, I moved to Charlotte because that's where my job was....I didn't have a choice in the matter. I guess I could have turned the offer down and stayed home to look for a job, but TRUST me, that was the bigger risk. LOL! I smile and speak to everyone because that's how I was raised. It's not really because I want to strike up a conversation with everyone I meet. And as far as quitting my job, again there were only 2 options at the time... move to Cincinnati or quit....quitting seemed like the lesser risk. So outwardly I seem outgoing and appear to be taking life by the horns but that's not what I feel on the inside. I hate walking into a room full of people I don't know; I'll do things outside of my comfort zone like take swim lessons or run a 5K or two but I wouldn't dare chair a significant committee in my sorority or professionals groups. I HATE when people watch me walk into a room. How can all this be true and I not be shy? And furthermore, why is my outward perception so different than what I think of myself?
And I have FINALLY figured it out : ) My struggle is with the POTENTIAL of who I am. Ya'll remember that poem....something about the light.....that we hide our light because we don't want to be different or outshine....is that scripture? Anyway, to the outside world I appear normal and confident and within the accepted lines of society. But I am not normal. What if I would truly let go and utilize the best of me and my talents...could I be so vulnerable to show how emotional I am? could I actually utilize my skill for public speaking and influence and inform people? could I really take my listening skills and arm chair psychologist philosophy to counsel others? Who could I become?
So I urge you to take this journey with me, because I KNOW there are talents you have that can change the world...or at least your community. We are just too shy to be noticed and too scared to have that responsibility. But who are you not to be great?
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God. (Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.)
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us, it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fears, our presence automatically liberates others.
Marianne Williamson
Thursday, September 15, 2011
Wobble Wobble: the women with the thickest thick thighs in the game????
Yep, you read it right. That is the title of an "article" that I just read on some online blog/celebrity magazine publication. Kind of reminded me, somewhat, of Nelly's response when he was getting a lot of flack about his degradation of women in the "Get your Eagle On" video....I believe that was the song. You know, the one where he swiped a credit card down a woman's bottom. Well anyway, Nelly's response was that it was the woman's idea and they all thought it would be funny. So as I was reading this "article" I kinda felt the same sentiment. Do we as women find the objectification of our body parts degrading or do we view it as flattering? Do we act like this because this is the main showcasing of "beauty" for ethnic women? "Hollywood's" main version of beauty is light, thin, long hair, blonde, etc....Is that why video chicks call themselves "models"? Because let's be serious, no mainstream designer would call any of those ladies to model. Sorry, its just the truth. No insight here today, just posing a question trying to make sense of this paradox of celebrating what is uniquely sexy vs. being viewed as sex object.
But I do get annoyed with a man who carries on a whole conversation with my chest. I mean REALLY? Even when they are all covered up. Some guys don't even make an attempt to look up.....and then you wonder why I have the stank look on my face....my bad, I digress, this wasn't suppposed to be about me. Well, yes it is. This is "Being Drea Nicole" so everything can be about me. If you don't like it, stop reading. LOL!
So on to my update, I can now add Charleston to my list of trips this year. MH and I had a great time. We ate, shopped, walked and ate some more. I guess that is why when I took my measurements the other week I got a big surprise :) so you know my quest to lose 3% body fat this year, well I am happy to report that I am halfway there! YAY me...but guess what, I have been doing it wrong. GASP. Although I am down in body fat, I am up in weight and measurements. My shoulders are so wide I look like a fullback. LOL! I literally cant fit any of my winter coats. WTF? why the face? So I talked to personal trainer who told me I was doing it ALL wrong. He said he knew something was up with me because he had been noticing changes in my physique over the last couple of months but couldn't figure out what I was doing. So here is his charge: no bread, rice, potato, fruit or pasta after 6:00 PM. What? How will I survive? Also, only 1.5 hrs of strength training a week.....all other exercise should be straight cardio. AND most of my strength training will be focused on moderate weight with more reps. We'll see how this goes : ) I am going to Las Vegas with my Mam-Maw, aunts, sis-n-law, niece and cousins at the end of November. I'm excited about that trip!! I am also officially hosting my 3rd event at my house this year, our next book club meeting. We will be discussing "The Hunger Games" by Suzanne Collins. I think the menu will either consist of foods needed for survival or just do a great salad with various cupcakes and wine! We'll see.... I am SO excited that football season is here!! Some girlfriends and I have a ladies only fantasy football league called "Vick in a Box" We had a GREAT week 1, I am very impressed. It is a lot of the ladies first time playing and they did well. I think we should get some t-shirts made and go to a Panthers game or at least go to a bar :) I'll send them an email, see what they think. Hmmmmm.
But I do get annoyed with a man who carries on a whole conversation with my chest. I mean REALLY? Even when they are all covered up. Some guys don't even make an attempt to look up.....and then you wonder why I have the stank look on my face....my bad, I digress, this wasn't suppposed to be about me. Well, yes it is. This is "Being Drea Nicole" so everything can be about me. If you don't like it, stop reading. LOL!
So on to my update, I can now add Charleston to my list of trips this year. MH and I had a great time. We ate, shopped, walked and ate some more. I guess that is why when I took my measurements the other week I got a big surprise :) so you know my quest to lose 3% body fat this year, well I am happy to report that I am halfway there! YAY me...but guess what, I have been doing it wrong. GASP. Although I am down in body fat, I am up in weight and measurements. My shoulders are so wide I look like a fullback. LOL! I literally cant fit any of my winter coats. WTF? why the face? So I talked to personal trainer who told me I was doing it ALL wrong. He said he knew something was up with me because he had been noticing changes in my physique over the last couple of months but couldn't figure out what I was doing. So here is his charge: no bread, rice, potato, fruit or pasta after 6:00 PM. What? How will I survive? Also, only 1.5 hrs of strength training a week.....all other exercise should be straight cardio. AND most of my strength training will be focused on moderate weight with more reps. We'll see how this goes : ) I am going to Las Vegas with my Mam-Maw, aunts, sis-n-law, niece and cousins at the end of November. I'm excited about that trip!! I am also officially hosting my 3rd event at my house this year, our next book club meeting. We will be discussing "The Hunger Games" by Suzanne Collins. I think the menu will either consist of foods needed for survival or just do a great salad with various cupcakes and wine! We'll see.... I am SO excited that football season is here!! Some girlfriends and I have a ladies only fantasy football league called "Vick in a Box" We had a GREAT week 1, I am very impressed. It is a lot of the ladies first time playing and they did well. I think we should get some t-shirts made and go to a Panthers game or at least go to a bar :) I'll send them an email, see what they think. Hmmmmm.
Monday, August 22, 2011
Is it Tyler Perry’s Fault???
I have heard several people say that they do not support Tyler Perry films because it portrays an image of black people as foolish, black men as abusers, and because they all have the same storyline. While I wholeheartedly agree that the story line in many of his movies is the same, I take away a different sentiment about his work. While I think Tyler Perry has learned to be a great business man, entrepreneur and even producer through his writing of stage plays and movies, I’ve never thought of him as a great playwright. He writes the story he knows, and has garnered a huge following. Why should he change the formula? Ok, I hear you. That was fine for his first 2 movies, but now since he has such a mass following, doesn’t he owe it to the community to flip the script? Shouldn’t he write more socially conscious films that paint a more positive picture of the community? Well, I would argue that he does….In the midst of Madea and the abusive black man, there is always the God fearing man who loves the woman thru her pain and doesn’t believe in sex before marriage, there is always a professional degreed character, and Madea always letting somebody down stay with her rent free. Somebody always finds God and changes their life. LOL! Pretty predictive J So then he tried to change it up a bit, with “Daddy’s Little Girls” “Why did I get Married” series and my personal favorite “The Family that Preys.” But ultimately, even in part of those films, he goes back to his old formula. And I am totally convinced it’s because that’s what he knows to write. Spike Lee, although he had different story lines, wrote in the same voice thru all of his written films. I can even see that in the movies that Denzel produced….they have a niche that works for them and they work with it.
I think the REAL issue with Tyler Perry is that he is the ONLY vision of us that is being shown in the movies. Hollywood is filled with varying images from gangster to villain to family man to idiot to genius of mainstream America, so one image is not taken as overly offensive or how EVERYONE acts. I don’t remember too many white people getting upset at “Harold and Kumar go to White Castle” And that’s because there are sooo many different depictions of them on screen that stoned out teenagers don’t bother them. So whose fault is that? Is it Tyler’s? Or is it our fault for not supporting films such as “The Great Debaters” “Antwone Fisher” and “Rosewood” as we do/did “Boyz in the Hood” “Baby Boy” and “Diary of a Mad Black Woman” Now I am not talking negatively about any of these films…I saw and enjoyed them all. But how do we get varying images of ourselves on the big screen? We are not a one dimensional people, and I honestly don’t think Tyler has the writing talent to even begin to portray us varied ways. But he does have the studio and production capabilities….
Just my two cents…….and I write this while watching “Welcome to Death Row”, a documentary about the personalities and rise and fall of Death Row Records
Friday, August 19, 2011
Really Random Thoughts.....
Just a few random thoughts and questions that have come across my mind this week.....
Can I listen to Maybach music in my Ford Fusion?
How thick is too thick? Is there such a thing?....for some, apparently not
I now understand why my mother drinks a spoonful of apple cider vinegar whenever she eats pork.....from the roota to the toota is a lot of pig
I am going to stop fighting it, and give in to one of these old men....apparently it's my destiny that I need to accept
When did I become so bougie?? This has to end.....I can hardly afford myself
If you can't drop it off before 10:00 then don't worry about it.....you ain't slick sucka
Although I don't always display it, I am an etiquette expert....need to start a school for young girls.....my mother purchases EVERY update to Miss Manners and others...smh
If I could cut a layer outta my lower stomach, I'd be alright......but I'm not gone eat right to do that, so I guess the layer stays...LOL...rather have cracklin, fries & chocolate & camouflage the stomach
Am I too grown to still get crushes? Are they my excuse not to get emotionally involved in a relationship? Am I even that deep? LOL
I went into the wrong profession....home repair is where its at.....
Can I listen to Maybach music in my Ford Fusion?
How thick is too thick? Is there such a thing?....for some, apparently not
I now understand why my mother drinks a spoonful of apple cider vinegar whenever she eats pork.....from the roota to the toota is a lot of pig
I am going to stop fighting it, and give in to one of these old men....apparently it's my destiny that I need to accept
When did I become so bougie?? This has to end.....I can hardly afford myself
If you can't drop it off before 10:00 then don't worry about it.....you ain't slick sucka
Although I don't always display it, I am an etiquette expert....need to start a school for young girls.....my mother purchases EVERY update to Miss Manners and others...smh
If I could cut a layer outta my lower stomach, I'd be alright......but I'm not gone eat right to do that, so I guess the layer stays...LOL...rather have cracklin, fries & chocolate & camouflage the stomach
Am I too grown to still get crushes? Are they my excuse not to get emotionally involved in a relationship? Am I even that deep? LOL
I went into the wrong profession....home repair is where its at.....
Wednesday, August 17, 2011
Random Thoughts........
1. Healthy is the new sexy
2. I used to be an EXCELLENT budgeter.....could work $650 a month like it was my JOB!!! but then I got bougie...now I am going to force myself to take out in cash my budget for food, groceries, and clothes for the month....once I spend that envelope, its gone. Gotta get back to budgeting beast mode : )
3. I can't curl my hair....never really did it, so never really learned. Now I am teaching myself b/c after I work out my hair is SOAKED. I have to dry and curl and wrap all over again
4. Ever since I turned 30 I sweat...I mean 5 minutes of cardio and I am wiping my forehead. By the end of my zumba class, my hair/head is soaked but the rest of me is ok.....
5. I use everyday of vacation.....and a few more!! I don't let any day go to waste...trust me, they wouldn't give me more than I deserved so I'm taking them all
6. I can't believe I am reading this "hood" series about "Wifey".....is anyone else as sucked in as I am?? I refuse to buy book 4 until next month, not going over my Netflix/Itunes/books budget
7. kinda wants to put herself on that show "what do you look like naked?" or something like that.......I need a crash course
8. I am always hungry....i think i have a tapeworm
9. I REALLY need to clean my house before my mother comes to visit next month.....don't want to hear all the complaining/advice
10. spends a grip on Bo's daycare/boarding.....they always hit me up for the playcare.....
2. I used to be an EXCELLENT budgeter.....could work $650 a month like it was my JOB!!! but then I got bougie...now I am going to force myself to take out in cash my budget for food, groceries, and clothes for the month....once I spend that envelope, its gone. Gotta get back to budgeting beast mode : )
3. I can't curl my hair....never really did it, so never really learned. Now I am teaching myself b/c after I work out my hair is SOAKED. I have to dry and curl and wrap all over again
4. Ever since I turned 30 I sweat...I mean 5 minutes of cardio and I am wiping my forehead. By the end of my zumba class, my hair/head is soaked but the rest of me is ok.....
5. I use everyday of vacation.....and a few more!! I don't let any day go to waste...trust me, they wouldn't give me more than I deserved so I'm taking them all
6. I can't believe I am reading this "hood" series about "Wifey".....is anyone else as sucked in as I am?? I refuse to buy book 4 until next month, not going over my Netflix/Itunes/books budget
7. kinda wants to put herself on that show "what do you look like naked?" or something like that.......I need a crash course
8. I am always hungry....i think i have a tapeworm
9. I REALLY need to clean my house before my mother comes to visit next month.....don't want to hear all the complaining/advice
10. spends a grip on Bo's daycare/boarding.....they always hit me up for the playcare.....
Tuesday, August 9, 2011
Welcome to MIAMI!!!
I have just returned from my annual girl's trip. This year we took our talents to South Beach and had a BLAST in Miami : ) There are a lot of cute areas in South Beach. I really enjoyed Espionola Way and Lincoln Rd the most. They were full of shops and restaurants with beautifully decorated gardens and tons of outside seating. I have no idea what the "club scene" in Miami is because there were too many lines, LOL! we ended up in lobbies of posh and bustling hotels to enjoy our nightlife. The spa experience was AMAZING!!! My skin felt baby soft after my massage and salt scrub. I should start doing start scrubs at home weekly......wonder how much of a mess I would make????? I had the BEST white sangria ever at this spot on Ocean Blvd. YUMMY :) I also saw one of the most disturbing things in my life, but I can't mention it here. I shudder to even think about it.
So after all this food and fun, I am sure my 1% down is now negative. LOL! I can't win for losing. But I am not giving up. I will go back to eating sensibly and increase my cardio. I will get 3% body fat off of me, I will get 3% body fat off of me.
My calendar is filling up FAST! August and October are booked solid.....and most of it is in Charlotte. Between Junior League, AKA, and NBMBA I am booked with meetings, conferences and retreats. I need to find a way to export my Outlook calendar to my iPhone so I will always be up to date. Is this possible?? Does any one know how to do it??? Please and Thanks!
My fade is growing out fast. It has quickly become some sort of fro. I am really enjoying this journey. I have a new look everyday it seems. And I never noticed how much I like my neck. I know its a weird body part to admire, but its long without being giraffe like. Who knew?? Its funny too, a male friend of mine mentioned that I probably wouldn't get much play/attention from men because guys liked longer hair.......I found it interesting because my hair hasn't been long since I was a teenager. But if he was referring to my usual length, I wasn't really getting any play/attention then so I haven't noticed a difference yet. LOL
So after all this food and fun, I am sure my 1% down is now negative. LOL! I can't win for losing. But I am not giving up. I will go back to eating sensibly and increase my cardio. I will get 3% body fat off of me, I will get 3% body fat off of me.
My calendar is filling up FAST! August and October are booked solid.....and most of it is in Charlotte. Between Junior League, AKA, and NBMBA I am booked with meetings, conferences and retreats. I need to find a way to export my Outlook calendar to my iPhone so I will always be up to date. Is this possible?? Does any one know how to do it??? Please and Thanks!
My fade is growing out fast. It has quickly become some sort of fro. I am really enjoying this journey. I have a new look everyday it seems. And I never noticed how much I like my neck. I know its a weird body part to admire, but its long without being giraffe like. Who knew?? Its funny too, a male friend of mine mentioned that I probably wouldn't get much play/attention from men because guys liked longer hair.......I found it interesting because my hair hasn't been long since I was a teenager. But if he was referring to my usual length, I wasn't really getting any play/attention then so I haven't noticed a difference yet. LOL
Tuesday, August 2, 2011
1% Down!!!! 2% to go
Well I have done it....it's official. I have lost 1% body fat. WOO HOO! I am excited, I am transforming my body into a lean, mean energy burning machine. But here is the issue....do you know how long it took me to do it??? darn near 3 months!!! I assumed it would take 3 weeks. LOL! But the articles/books/web said that it should only take a month. The articles also told me to cut out sweets, increase my veg intake, no fried or fast foods and no alcohol. Guess that's why it took a little longer. But I am on my way now. I can see the goal and I'm committed to being 3% down by October 31st. That way, I can get my jewelry for my Christmas present : ) Maybe it will even be on SALE.......although I highly doubt it.
I have just finished 2 great books, definite must reads!!! The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks and The Hunger Games. Actually I have just finished 4 great books because I had to read the 2 sequels to the Hunger Games. Also recently read A Belle in Brooklyn and enjoyed it as well. For a brief synopsis:
The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks - poor black woman who died of cancer, but whose cells were "stolen" for research that lead to vaccines for polio, treatments for cancer and other life saving procedures. But the family was not told nor asked. While Henrietta's cells are have been reproduced to circle the Earth many times over, her family can barely afford healthcare
The Hunger Games - in a post apocalyptic America, each district must send 2 of their children to compete in hunger games, a fight to the death, to be televised for the Capital's enjoyment and to keep the districts in submission to the Capital. Katniss, volunteers in her younger sister's place and changes the landscape of her world
A Belle in Brooklyn - relationship editor of Essence magazine talks about happily dating and single life : )
Here is my only quip with A Belle in Brooklyn, and maybe I am just hating, please let me know. But she met and had access to a PLETHORA of desirable and eligible young black men...........maybe in New York but not down here....LOL. Or should I say I don't run into or meet them. I can count on one hand (ok, maybe 2) the number of uncommitted YOUNG black men I know here. I know they are around, just not sure where they hang. Or maybe its because I hang with a bunch of women, LOL!!!
I have just finished 2 great books, definite must reads!!! The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks and The Hunger Games. Actually I have just finished 4 great books because I had to read the 2 sequels to the Hunger Games. Also recently read A Belle in Brooklyn and enjoyed it as well. For a brief synopsis:
The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks - poor black woman who died of cancer, but whose cells were "stolen" for research that lead to vaccines for polio, treatments for cancer and other life saving procedures. But the family was not told nor asked. While Henrietta's cells are have been reproduced to circle the Earth many times over, her family can barely afford healthcare
The Hunger Games - in a post apocalyptic America, each district must send 2 of their children to compete in hunger games, a fight to the death, to be televised for the Capital's enjoyment and to keep the districts in submission to the Capital. Katniss, volunteers in her younger sister's place and changes the landscape of her world
A Belle in Brooklyn - relationship editor of Essence magazine talks about happily dating and single life : )
Here is my only quip with A Belle in Brooklyn, and maybe I am just hating, please let me know. But she met and had access to a PLETHORA of desirable and eligible young black men...........maybe in New York but not down here....LOL. Or should I say I don't run into or meet them. I can count on one hand (ok, maybe 2) the number of uncommitted YOUNG black men I know here. I know they are around, just not sure where they hang. Or maybe its because I hang with a bunch of women, LOL!!!
Thursday, July 14, 2011
Choppa Style
OOOOOWWWWW! oh yeah! OOOOOWWWWW!! oh yeah! OOOOOWWWWW!! oh yeah! OOOOOWWWWW!! oh yeah!
Who they want??
Choppa Style Chop Chop Choppa Style Choppa Style Chop Chop
She want chop chop She want chop chop She want chop chop She love chop chop
This could be described as my theme song a few weeks ago : ) I had a mini mid-life crisis that had me making changes. Remember me talking about "I am not my hair"? Well that revelation was put to the test!!! At the end of June, I attended my family reunion and saw a cousin of mine who had recently undergone chemotherapy. And she was telling the family about how her sisters spent some time bonding over the holidays and tried to help her keep her hair. This made me think.......I know her sisters couldn't give a rat's hind parts if she had a strand of hair on her head or not, they just wanted her to get well and be in good health. So the "act" of trying to save her hair was not for them, it was for everyone else. My sister in law also went thru chemotherapy treatments last year and the family sent her hats.
I can't imagine the looks she got as she walked around town with a bald head, the judgement she must have felt, the self consciousness that must have permeated her, all while she was battling a major illness. While there are some outfits that women wear BOLDLY and don't give a damn what anyone thinks about it. How can I have that confidence, that self assurance, that boldness? Why am I so self conscious about menial things and why do I care? Now, don't get me wrong, I want to be appropriate and in good taste but other's perception of me should not affect my thoughts and confidence of myself. Because just like my cousins sister's, it won't matter to those who love, care and have my best intentions at heart.
So, wanting to be bold and daring and out of my comfort zone, I got a FADE. Cut all my hair off, well almost all. Shaved on the sides with a little on the top. To see if I can still be ME. And you know what, I LOVE it. Its easier to mange, but harder to style. It decides what it wants to do every morning. Now I know there are PLENTY of women who have short hairstyles and all kinds of do's, but I was raised as a "side part under". Your hair needs to be straight, chin to shoulder length, with a part on the side. That your hair is your "crown of glory" What does that even mean? And who made these rules??? Some old white man waaaaaaayyyyy back in the day. How dare he tell me how to be? LOL
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Who they want??
Choppa Style Chop Chop Choppa Style Choppa Style Chop Chop
She want chop chop She want chop chop She want chop chop She love chop chop
This could be described as my theme song a few weeks ago : ) I had a mini mid-life crisis that had me making changes. Remember me talking about "I am not my hair"? Well that revelation was put to the test!!! At the end of June, I attended my family reunion and saw a cousin of mine who had recently undergone chemotherapy. And she was telling the family about how her sisters spent some time bonding over the holidays and tried to help her keep her hair. This made me think.......I know her sisters couldn't give a rat's hind parts if she had a strand of hair on her head or not, they just wanted her to get well and be in good health. So the "act" of trying to save her hair was not for them, it was for everyone else. My sister in law also went thru chemotherapy treatments last year and the family sent her hats.
I can't imagine the looks she got as she walked around town with a bald head, the judgement she must have felt, the self consciousness that must have permeated her, all while she was battling a major illness. While there are some outfits that women wear BOLDLY and don't give a damn what anyone thinks about it. How can I have that confidence, that self assurance, that boldness? Why am I so self conscious about menial things and why do I care? Now, don't get me wrong, I want to be appropriate and in good taste but other's perception of me should not affect my thoughts and confidence of myself. Because just like my cousins sister's, it won't matter to those who love, care and have my best intentions at heart.
So, wanting to be bold and daring and out of my comfort zone, I got a FADE. Cut all my hair off, well almost all. Shaved on the sides with a little on the top. To see if I can still be ME. And you know what, I LOVE it. Its easier to mange, but harder to style. It decides what it wants to do every morning. Now I know there are PLENTY of women who have short hairstyles and all kinds of do's, but I was raised as a "side part under". Your hair needs to be straight, chin to shoulder length, with a part on the side. That your hair is your "crown of glory" What does that even mean? And who made these rules??? Some old white man waaaaaaayyyyy back in the day. How dare he tell me how to be? LOL
Wednesday, July 6, 2011
Essence
Have you ever heard that song "Pieces of Me" by Ledisi......that is one of my jams right now!! One line of the chorus goes "like every woman I know, I'm complicated fo sho" I absolutely love that line....it speaks volumes. Especially for me, because I know I can be a complicated person. I'm super emotional, an open book but at the same time very private, introspective, very outgoing in many situations while extremely shy in others, did I mention introspective, big crier, big laugher, very country, very professional, have I said I'm introspective, quite girly, quite physically active, messy while a cleaning freak, will never tell you I'm upset until I have analyzed and figured out why, value family and family values, can be unintentionally inconsiderate, can have the time of my life eating or dancing & singing or reading a book, don't know if I've said introspective, hate that I get self conscious and will go to extremes to fight it, speak to everyone, am an old man magnet, still get crushes, so used to living alone that I need quiet time daily, lazy about putting up clothes, hate to see people hurt or in pain, have to turn the TV on when I sleep in house alone, am an awful flirter, sometimes miss the obvious, goal oriented while at the same time comfortable, still seeking passion "but when I love I LOVE til there's no love no more. These are the pieces of me"
By the way, went to Essence Festival and had a BLAST!!!! Top performers in my opinion were New Edition, Mary J. Blige, Charlie Wilson and Kanye West. Must do event....
By the way, went to Essence Festival and had a BLAST!!!! Top performers in my opinion were New Edition, Mary J. Blige, Charlie Wilson and Kanye West. Must do event....
Monday, June 27, 2011
Too dark to be that ashy
OK folks out there in blog land, can I tell you about how embarrassed I was at my family reunion this past weekend? And it's all my fault. So every year, the opening day is registration and meet & greet. Come as you are and fellowship b/c everybody is just getting off the road. Well this year things were different. And of course I did not read my package, but to be fair to myself, the package did not go into detail. This year the meet & greet was a reception with a dais, and an emcee and keynote speaker and the mayor of Tuskegee!!! I was soooo inappropriately dressed. I had on a tank top and short old navy skirt....not reception attire. I was not the only one though, so it made me feel a little better.
"I am not my hair" Profound revelation I had last week. It all started when Sunday morning I awoke to extremely dry legs, lips and face. I didn't know what was going on with me. I became extremely worried when I washed my hair and found several areas of breakage that were not there the week before. I went into a slight panic attack. My first thought was that all my hair was falling out, I was going to be bald headed. I went into a tailspin trying to figure out how this happened, what did I do, what am I going to do, how can i go out in public? After a few phone calls and putting 2 and 2 together I realized that some new medication I was taking was making me very dry. Therefore causing dry skin and scalp. The hair breakage was from extreme dryness. So now that I had a reason, I stopped being worried and became vain. Ugh, I am too dark to be ashy and worst of all, MY HAIR. How can I style this? Boo hoo hoo I'm bald. I honestly went thru this for several hours until it dawned on me, why are you being so over dramatic?? It's just hair and it will grow back. OK, so you have some bad breakage, you are NOT bald, just a little thin on the right side. BIG DEAL! In 2 months, it will be back to normal, why is this such a big deal? I started to think of people with alopecia and hereditary baldness and people who have undergone chemotherapy........and I'm crying over a small med side effect. Am I serious? I somehow felt my beauty would be diminished and even non existent because of this occurrence. I had to remind myself that I AM THE SOLE SOURCE OF MY CONFIDENCE!!!! And regardless of what my hair looks like, I am beautiful and I am worthy. Now I am not saying that I don't care about my outward appearance, I most definitely do. And I do things to "decorate" myself to make me feel pretty :) But that does not define who I am nor does it dictate my beauty.
"I am not my hair" Profound revelation I had last week. It all started when Sunday morning I awoke to extremely dry legs, lips and face. I didn't know what was going on with me. I became extremely worried when I washed my hair and found several areas of breakage that were not there the week before. I went into a slight panic attack. My first thought was that all my hair was falling out, I was going to be bald headed. I went into a tailspin trying to figure out how this happened, what did I do, what am I going to do, how can i go out in public? After a few phone calls and putting 2 and 2 together I realized that some new medication I was taking was making me very dry. Therefore causing dry skin and scalp. The hair breakage was from extreme dryness. So now that I had a reason, I stopped being worried and became vain. Ugh, I am too dark to be ashy and worst of all, MY HAIR. How can I style this? Boo hoo hoo I'm bald. I honestly went thru this for several hours until it dawned on me, why are you being so over dramatic?? It's just hair and it will grow back. OK, so you have some bad breakage, you are NOT bald, just a little thin on the right side. BIG DEAL! In 2 months, it will be back to normal, why is this such a big deal? I started to think of people with alopecia and hereditary baldness and people who have undergone chemotherapy........and I'm crying over a small med side effect. Am I serious? I somehow felt my beauty would be diminished and even non existent because of this occurrence. I had to remind myself that I AM THE SOLE SOURCE OF MY CONFIDENCE!!!! And regardless of what my hair looks like, I am beautiful and I am worthy. Now I am not saying that I don't care about my outward appearance, I most definitely do. And I do things to "decorate" myself to make me feel pretty :) But that does not define who I am nor does it dictate my beauty.
Wednesday, June 22, 2011
Thankful for Ponnie & Hester
This weekend I will make the trek to Tuskegee Alabama for the Harper Family reunion. Even though I talk about how crazy & country my family is, I absolutely love our family reunion. It is always good to get together and fellowship. But my favorite part, and don't tell my cousin Terrence, is our family history session. And the reason I say not to tell him is because the speech may get longer..... But anyway, every year I am in awe and amazement at the strength, love and resilience my ancestors possessed. MY people built Auburn, Alabama.....the university and all. I think about how my grandparents Lewis and Nanci Harper, with very little formal education, made sure all five of their kids graduated from college. (they personally kept Tuskegee University in business : ) They emphasized education, staying married and not going to jail......and all their kids followed suit...go figure :)
While I am excited and looking forward to seeing my family and ready to go fishing on Herbert's land, there are a few things I am NOT looking forward to.... So you know I had to put them in a Top 10!!!
1. People asking me if I have a boyfriend, if I am dating, what am I waiting on, etc...... just don't worry about me. IF I ever marry, all will be invited to witness the miracle. LOL!
2. People asking me if I have gained weight.....heifer, yeah. Now what? LOL!
3. A DRY bbq......seriously, can we at least get some daiquiris??
4. The family meeting.......if you want it to change, plan the reunion yourself.
5. The lecture about leaving the reunion before church service......I'm sorry, but I need to be back home by 6
6. How HOT its going to be on the land........Jesus be an fence and a fan!
7. The family talent show....take that back, that's going to be the highlight....need to hear 'ol boy's song again
8. The meal schedule...are we catching our own fish for the fish fry?
9. Walking the mall, or anywhere else, with those Harper fam tshirts........just too much
10. the cost to board my dog.....my goodness, they raised these prices!!!
While I am excited and looking forward to seeing my family and ready to go fishing on Herbert's land, there are a few things I am NOT looking forward to.... So you know I had to put them in a Top 10!!!
1. People asking me if I have a boyfriend, if I am dating, what am I waiting on, etc...... just don't worry about me. IF I ever marry, all will be invited to witness the miracle. LOL!
2. People asking me if I have gained weight.....heifer, yeah. Now what? LOL!
3. A DRY bbq......seriously, can we at least get some daiquiris??
4. The family meeting.......if you want it to change, plan the reunion yourself.
5. The lecture about leaving the reunion before church service......I'm sorry, but I need to be back home by 6
6. How HOT its going to be on the land........Jesus be an fence and a fan!
7. The family talent show....take that back, that's going to be the highlight....need to hear 'ol boy's song again
8. The meal schedule...are we catching our own fish for the fish fry?
9. Walking the mall, or anywhere else, with those Harper fam tshirts........just too much
10. the cost to board my dog.....my goodness, they raised these prices!!!
Thursday, June 16, 2011
They say you are who you attract
I find that flattering considering the wonderful people I have in my life. I have always been blessed to be closely surrounded by positive people and have made some great friends. But here is my burning question......If I am who I attract, then why do OLD men always hit on me? For real. It never fails. No matter where I am, in the grocery store, at the gym, in the club, the old dudes approach me. They LOVE me. WTF? why the face? I mean and they are bold too. Pinky ring, Coogi sweater, cowboy boots wearing grandpas!!! Just had to get that out. I can't believe he just tried to holla. I look a hot mess today....anyway random thoughts....carry on
Here's a List of Things I Should be Ashamed of.....but Tragically, I'm NOT
Last night I was up reading a book until the wee hours of the morning.......I knew I should have been asleep, but the book had captured me and I had to find out what happened. Fully realizing that the book would be there the next day and read the same way, I still couldn't put it down. I then started thinking about how I have been in this situation before, with the Twilight series, Video Vixen, The Coldest Winter Ever and a few others. I distinctly remember one night at 2:15 am, and I had a sales appointment at 10:00 am, but I was still up reading about a teenage/vampire love affair. smh Should have been and still should be ashamed, but I'm not. Which leads me to today's blog posting, a few things I should be ashamed of about myself, but I'm not. Please don't judge me.
1. I should be ashamed that it's taking me 3 months to get my closet in working order, and that I could only sleep on half of my bed because of all the stuff I took out, but I'm not. (got to do better)
2. I should be ashamed that I have a company car and all car washes are paid for, but on avg. I only get my car washed every 2 months, but I'm not. (now this is just sad)
3. I should be ashamed that my dog and I are the only beings in the house and we live in 2 rooms, but I have a housekeeper who comes 1 to 2 times a month, but I'm not. ($90 well spent, I'd rather do something else with my time)
4. I should be ashamed that I purposefully get to church late to avoid the praise and worship service, but I'm not. ( I'm good for one or 2 songs, not an entire concert)
5. I should be ashamed of how I talk to my dog on occasions, but I'm not. (get out my face, hope I won't ever say that to kids)
6. I should be ashamed of the nicknames I have for some people, but I'm not. (from Sanford & Son, to Reg)
7. I should be ashamed of my eating habits, but I'm not. (i have some weird cravings and schedule)
8. I should be ashamed of some of my shoes, but I'm not. (really hot pink heels, pink& grey& purple pumps)
9. I should be ashamed of my junk reality tv obsession, but I'm not
I10. should be ashamed for losing the get low contest to Tonja, Kimberliegh and Chris, but I'm not. (actually, I am a little shame about that, i gotta practice)
11. I should be ashamed at how much I am on twitter during the day, but I'm not. (hey, its my entertainment. could be doing a lot worse)
12. I should be ashamed of my country ways, but I'm not. (it's who I am, i don't like shoes, say ya'll & git & finna, you can't understand a THING i say when I get very sad or very happy. it all comes out)
1. I should be ashamed that it's taking me 3 months to get my closet in working order, and that I could only sleep on half of my bed because of all the stuff I took out, but I'm not. (got to do better)
2. I should be ashamed that I have a company car and all car washes are paid for, but on avg. I only get my car washed every 2 months, but I'm not. (now this is just sad)
3. I should be ashamed that my dog and I are the only beings in the house and we live in 2 rooms, but I have a housekeeper who comes 1 to 2 times a month, but I'm not. ($90 well spent, I'd rather do something else with my time)
4. I should be ashamed that I purposefully get to church late to avoid the praise and worship service, but I'm not. ( I'm good for one or 2 songs, not an entire concert)
5. I should be ashamed of how I talk to my dog on occasions, but I'm not. (get out my face, hope I won't ever say that to kids)
6. I should be ashamed of the nicknames I have for some people, but I'm not. (from Sanford & Son, to Reg)
7. I should be ashamed of my eating habits, but I'm not. (i have some weird cravings and schedule)
8. I should be ashamed of some of my shoes, but I'm not. (really hot pink heels, pink& grey& purple pumps)
9. I should be ashamed of my junk reality tv obsession, but I'm not
I10. should be ashamed for losing the get low contest to Tonja, Kimberliegh and Chris, but I'm not. (actually, I am a little shame about that, i gotta practice)
11. I should be ashamed at how much I am on twitter during the day, but I'm not. (hey, its my entertainment. could be doing a lot worse)
12. I should be ashamed of my country ways, but I'm not. (it's who I am, i don't like shoes, say ya'll & git & finna, you can't understand a THING i say when I get very sad or very happy. it all comes out)
Friday, June 3, 2011
Update #6
One thing is certain.......I will not be getting my fitness goal prize at the end of June : (. Nothing like wearing all white to let you know where your problem areas are!!!! I'm not giving up though, I can be ready by the time we go to Miami, a little delayed gratification.
Friends.....How Many of us Have them
I love my friends :) I am beginning to really see how God has always placed the right people in my life at the right time. I need to start making a concerted effort to keep in touch with people who are dear to me!
Spring Fever & my Top Ten
I have a disease that wrecks your whole nervous system. It makes me jumpy and excitable; ruins my concentration at work and makes me neglect very important chores and responsibilities in my life; I can't sit still. I have.....SPRING FEVER! It's that disease that occurs once winter is over and spring/summer is here to stay, when it stays light until 8:00 : ) I have spring fever so bad that I have begun to neglect my list : ( I haven't picked up a book in almost a month, only cooked maybe twice, not taken a single picture and haven't run since March. What I HAVE done is successfully managed to spend little to no time in my house for the entire month of May. I went out EVERYDAY and NIGHT of Memorial Day weekend beginning Thursday evening. You know its bad when you see the same bouncer 4 times in 2 weeks. smh...it's a shame.
But there has been a little progress made towards my goals. I have purchased a ticket to Memphis in August to visit fam there and I went to Cajun Canvas for a painting class with my Girl's Night In group. It was a lot of fun and very therapeutic. I would love to go again with a group of friends.....I should probably set that up.
Ok so anyone that knows me knows I LOVE making lists. To do lists, list of goals, any kind of list & I'm ready. So I was having a conversation with a young relative of mine. Nice young man a few years out of school and we were discussing serious dating and relationships/marriage. Not sure how we got on this conversation but of course I developed a Top Ten list for him : ) My top 10 focuses on the things to watch out for in women when in real relationships.......not saying that he shouldn't continue to date said women but to just be careful and proceed with caution. He thought I was insane, I think its a darn good list. My disclaimer is that I am in no way an authority, just my opinion : )
1. Be wary of women who do not have custody of their children..i.e. live with them - there's a reason
2. Be wary of loud women...unless they are hard of hearing - tend to have a need for attention and control
3. Be wary of women who constantly diet or talk about dieting - will find it hard to be happy with themselves
4. Be wary of women with NO male friends - its because she's slept with them all
5. Be wary of women who have never lived by themselves (excluding her children) - she has no clue who she is yet
6. Be wary of women who don't love your kids - if she loves you, she should love your kids
7. Be wary of women who with no beauty routine - doesn't have to be overly girly but not having one may lead to her letting herself go
8. Be wary of women who are in debt with no plans of getting out - just spells trouble
9. Be wary of women with no goals - she won't be able to help, understand or support you with yours
10. Be wary of women who don't read - from magazines to romance novels to cereal boxes- we're talking about the primary educator of your future kids........think about it
But there has been a little progress made towards my goals. I have purchased a ticket to Memphis in August to visit fam there and I went to Cajun Canvas for a painting class with my Girl's Night In group. It was a lot of fun and very therapeutic. I would love to go again with a group of friends.....I should probably set that up.
Ok so anyone that knows me knows I LOVE making lists. To do lists, list of goals, any kind of list & I'm ready. So I was having a conversation with a young relative of mine. Nice young man a few years out of school and we were discussing serious dating and relationships/marriage. Not sure how we got on this conversation but of course I developed a Top Ten list for him : ) My top 10 focuses on the things to watch out for in women when in real relationships.......not saying that he shouldn't continue to date said women but to just be careful and proceed with caution. He thought I was insane, I think its a darn good list. My disclaimer is that I am in no way an authority, just my opinion : )
1. Be wary of women who do not have custody of their children..i.e. live with them - there's a reason
2. Be wary of loud women...unless they are hard of hearing - tend to have a need for attention and control
3. Be wary of women who constantly diet or talk about dieting - will find it hard to be happy with themselves
4. Be wary of women with NO male friends - its because she's slept with them all
5. Be wary of women who have never lived by themselves (excluding her children) - she has no clue who she is yet
6. Be wary of women who don't love your kids - if she loves you, she should love your kids
7. Be wary of women who with no beauty routine - doesn't have to be overly girly but not having one may lead to her letting herself go
8. Be wary of women who are in debt with no plans of getting out - just spells trouble
9. Be wary of women with no goals - she won't be able to help, understand or support you with yours
10. Be wary of women who don't read - from magazines to romance novels to cereal boxes- we're talking about the primary educator of your future kids........think about it
Friday, April 29, 2011
Stop Playing, You're Married........or you have a live-in girlfriend.....or you only want sumthin
Ok, this is too good not to blog about. So here goes my update. I usually try to protect the innocent on my blogs, but only 2 to 3 people are reading this so who cares : )
Ok, so during CIAA I met this guy who asked for my phone number. Very rarely do men under the age of 50 even speak to me when I go out, and his approach was very respectable and nice so I gave him my number. I didn't really get a chance to look at him, because I was very ladylike dancing and backing it up, so I didn't see his face. He called the next week and we conversed for a bit and he seems like a nice fellow. We met up for lunch a little while later and he still seemed nice & normal. No sparks or anything, but I wasn't scared or bored to death either. One of the topics we talked about were my "rules" for dating. Yes, I have a few guidelines/rules for simple dating just to weed out big time trouble makers(married men, fiends,etc....) Here are the only 2 that I shared:
We go on 3 planned, confirmed dates before any "house" dates
I have to see & go inside your house before you know my address
He even commented how simple they were. Fast forward 2 months later and he has been trying EXTRA hard to get to my house, LOL! "I know we were supposed to go to dinner tonight but I got caught up at work. How about I come by your house and make you dinner?" or "You like movies too, why don't I bring over a couple to your house and we have a marathon viewing?" and my fav "I think if you were really feeling me like I'm feeling you, I could bypass the 3 dates rule" Ummm, I think if you really wanted to see me, you would set aside some time and make sure I set aside some time and make a date. Seriously...... outside of that first lunch, no confirmed plans have been made. And when I say confirmed, I mean planning on date and time ahead, not calling and saying "wanna go grab something to eat?" No, I don't. I'm nobody's back up plan, male or female. In case we already cool and I want to go :) but you know what I mean. Now honestly, I wasn't feelin him like that, but he seemed cool and would have definitely hung out with him again. I don't know too many dudes, so we could have been cool. But now I think I'm just tired. Stop calling me with lines and excuses, just be real.
So onto another subject that this has me thinking about, what is my type? It has been a while since some one has piqued my interest.....am I weird? time to do some more self analysis : )
Ok, so during CIAA I met this guy who asked for my phone number. Very rarely do men under the age of 50 even speak to me when I go out, and his approach was very respectable and nice so I gave him my number. I didn't really get a chance to look at him, because I was very ladylike dancing and backing it up, so I didn't see his face. He called the next week and we conversed for a bit and he seems like a nice fellow. We met up for lunch a little while later and he still seemed nice & normal. No sparks or anything, but I wasn't scared or bored to death either. One of the topics we talked about were my "rules" for dating. Yes, I have a few guidelines/rules for simple dating just to weed out big time trouble makers(married men, fiends,etc....) Here are the only 2 that I shared:
We go on 3 planned, confirmed dates before any "house" dates
I have to see & go inside your house before you know my address
He even commented how simple they were. Fast forward 2 months later and he has been trying EXTRA hard to get to my house, LOL! "I know we were supposed to go to dinner tonight but I got caught up at work. How about I come by your house and make you dinner?" or "You like movies too, why don't I bring over a couple to your house and we have a marathon viewing?" and my fav "I think if you were really feeling me like I'm feeling you, I could bypass the 3 dates rule" Ummm, I think if you really wanted to see me, you would set aside some time and make sure I set aside some time and make a date. Seriously...... outside of that first lunch, no confirmed plans have been made. And when I say confirmed, I mean planning on date and time ahead, not calling and saying "wanna go grab something to eat?" No, I don't. I'm nobody's back up plan, male or female. In case we already cool and I want to go :) but you know what I mean. Now honestly, I wasn't feelin him like that, but he seemed cool and would have definitely hung out with him again. I don't know too many dudes, so we could have been cool. But now I think I'm just tired. Stop calling me with lines and excuses, just be real.
So onto another subject that this has me thinking about, what is my type? It has been a while since some one has piqued my interest.....am I weird? time to do some more self analysis : )
Just Because
I don't know why, but I am very emotional today. It could be because I haven't cried in a while, and I used to average one good cry a week. I did get teary at church the week before last, when they were singing my song, but I couldn't let it all out, I was too close to the front. I know I need prayer for saying this, but I don't like getting emotional in church because I don't want anybody coming by fanning me or patting me or trying to make me do a holy dance or shout........ I need prayer for saying this too but there is an extra cute usher at church; "you want me to sit here?".........But I digress, back to me needing to cry. I am not sad, I am not angry or anything like that, I just need to release. I guess I will listen to some sad love songs tonight to get it all out, that always helps : ) My favorite achy breaky heart songs are: I Try by Angela Bofill, Is It Still Good to You by Ashford & Simpson, and Where Will You Go by Babyface. Then, throw some early Toni Braxton on top of that and you will be crying FOR REAL!
Tuesday, April 26, 2011
Update #5
"Oooooh, now I know who you are." I don't know about ya'll but those words scare me!!!!! What DO you know about me? What have you heard? Who told you? I heard these very same lines Friday night. Now I know how this person knows about me, but I don't know what information was shared. Was it good or bad? Was it the truth? Was it just general information and finally now a face to the name? The latter is the most logical case, but you always wonder.
I actually have no update this week. Haven't done much to tackle my list, you know what I'm lying...yes I have. I have tried out some new recipes. Philadelphia, the cream cheese people, have this new cooking cream that you can throw on some meat and vegetables and VOILA! instant meal. Here is the catch, be careful with the ratio....a little cream actually goes a long way. I also finished another book and have started 2 others. I have ordered 3 new books as well, so I think I am on my way!
I am really sleepy right now. Really sleepy. I worked out at lunch and that didn't go so well. I felt flustered and rushed trying to get back to the office, and my hair looks a hot mess. Not that I care about my hair looking a hot mess at work, but I have to be somewhere right after work today. I'm going to try agian tomorrow and see what I can make happen. wow, i just closed my eyes for a minute......that felt good. They might be looking for me at the end of the day. I might just sneak out.....
Anyway, on to sports. So glad the Hornets are giving the Lakers a run for the money. Wouldn't it be awesome if LA was eliminated first round? I wonder who Carolina is going to take in draft? Where does Ray Allen's mama get her bedazzled jerseys made?
Speaking of mamas, have ya'll seem Mama Jones? Jim Jones' mama.......high comedy!!! I put her, Frankie, LeBron's mama, and Toya's mama on the ballot for most entertaining.
Ok, my eyelids are closing on me now and if I don't take a "smoke break" soon, I will pass out on this desk. Will give a more comprehensive updater soon :)
I actually have no update this week. Haven't done much to tackle my list, you know what I'm lying...yes I have. I have tried out some new recipes. Philadelphia, the cream cheese people, have this new cooking cream that you can throw on some meat and vegetables and VOILA! instant meal. Here is the catch, be careful with the ratio....a little cream actually goes a long way. I also finished another book and have started 2 others. I have ordered 3 new books as well, so I think I am on my way!
I am really sleepy right now. Really sleepy. I worked out at lunch and that didn't go so well. I felt flustered and rushed trying to get back to the office, and my hair looks a hot mess. Not that I care about my hair looking a hot mess at work, but I have to be somewhere right after work today. I'm going to try agian tomorrow and see what I can make happen. wow, i just closed my eyes for a minute......that felt good. They might be looking for me at the end of the day. I might just sneak out.....
Anyway, on to sports. So glad the Hornets are giving the Lakers a run for the money. Wouldn't it be awesome if LA was eliminated first round? I wonder who Carolina is going to take in draft? Where does Ray Allen's mama get her bedazzled jerseys made?
Speaking of mamas, have ya'll seem Mama Jones? Jim Jones' mama.......high comedy!!! I put her, Frankie, LeBron's mama, and Toya's mama on the ballot for most entertaining.
Ok, my eyelids are closing on me now and if I don't take a "smoke break" soon, I will pass out on this desk. Will give a more comprehensive updater soon :)
Wednesday, April 13, 2011
Update #4
Ok, ok, ok……..I know, it has been a LONG time. Wasn’t I supposed to be blogging weekly? Whatever happened to that? Trust me, it is not because of lack of activity……so much to catch up on. But I can sum it up in a few simple phrases…..God has truly blessed me with wonderful people in my life J I have terrific friends and am so thankful for their support, company, prayers and love.
Here’s just a few of the events that have passed - CIAA 2011,Asheville Girl’s Trip, half marathon relay, Prince concert, karaoke & pool at Midtown Sundries, Bobcats vs. Magic bball game
Because I wouldn’t be able to do the stories justice, I will just mention some random highlights, quotes, and lessons learned from these past 2 months from some great girlfriends and a couple of cool dudes J
1. You can run a mile with a broke leg. This may come in handy as you are planning your escape route from a 3 story cabin. Just be sure to warn the others
2. Sometimes taking the road less traveled is not a good idea (especially if you drive a Ford Fusion and that road is red clay with SERIOUS dents and its dark in the woods……)
3. Invest in yourself…….(a)get some real business cards made; I’m really not going to believe you work for the IRS if you have a business card that looks like a paper coupon. (b)get your speakers together! dj, the music you’re playing may be great, but your equipment is horrible
4. Johnny Gill and Eddie Murphy have been buddies since Eddie’s “Put your Mouth on Me” video. You know this because Johnny is in the background playing a guitar, when have you ever seen Johnny Gill playing a guitar?
5. Not everyone needs to work in customer service/hospitality…..if there have been 2 fights over a bucket of beer in the last 2 weeks, the common denominator is YOU
6. Be very afraid of grown men who still play fight/slap box………especially if that ish goes on for 15 mins
7. True friends do not let friends walk uptown with no shoes on in the rain……….I’m not a good friend
8. If the security guard follows you home from the mall, be careful
9. I am very good at talking to people who don’t know me. They wonder in puzzlement, where do I know her from? You don’t.
10. Try tackling a drag queen, see what happens
Now, onto my update……. Let’s see, I have run 2 5ks, visited my Uncle Curtis, went to Asheville – so that makes 2 trips this year, hosted a jewelry party at my house, read 5 books and went on one confirmed date. I have also done VERY well on my exercise goals. But have fallen short on my nutritional goals. I went and visited my fitness goal prize at the mall not too long ago, and discovered that it just doesn’t look good without the matching necklace J So I have to be extra committed in the upcoming months….the summer is around the corner.
One way I have been keeping in shape is ZUMBA. I am a helper for a ZUMBA class on Thursday evenings and have been having a BLAST! I just ordered some ZUMBA cargos, so I will be official. But I will be one of those people who wear the ZUMBA cargos to the grocery store and on the weekends, without even working out….SMH
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
Update #3
Hey folks out there in e-blog land........I have created my vision board : ) It is too cute too!! I have small wallet size copies all around to remind me daily of what I am working towards. I have an abbreviated vision board this year because I am targeting a very specific area of my life.... MY HEALTH. In general I am considered a pretty healthy individual, I am not overweight and I exercise 1 to 2 times a week. I have even run several 5k's and typically have a good amount of energy to do the things I want to do. But I have a hidden secret.....My eating habits are CRAP. There, I said it. I get nowhere near the amount of cardio, water, green vegetables or fiber that my body needs. And the older I get, I REALLY realize how important it is for me to treat my body well. My metabolism is crawling now, I already had hormone issues, and if I had not started this laser hair removal, I would have a full grown beard. Not sexy. So I have made a conscious goal this year to get my body used to being treated well, so that it just won't accept anything else.
So what does that entail? First...WATER. I absolutely must give my body the fuel it needs to survive. I sometimes add a little Crystal Light to my BubbaKeg(by the way, they are the BOMB for meeting your water requirements) when I need some pizazz. But I have researched and found that I need 10 eight ounce glasses of water daily to remain hydrated and flushed. Now some of that can and will come from the foods that I consume, but to have a daily goal of 10 glasses is the right start. Have I done it yet? Not quite. But I got the BubbaKeg and I just came up with the goal last week so give me a minute to put it in practice :)
Second....CARDIO. I am actually very good at my resistance training. I typically go 1 to 2 times a week and use the weights, but I only do it for 30 to 40 minutes. I am not in the gym all day...I have important things like eating, shopping, happy hour and sleeping to do. And please forget getting up in the morning(as has been suggested) and starting my day off with a good 40 minute exercise. The bed feels too good. But after further review, it appears I am doing the proper number of sets and full body exercises necessary for strength training. I was even told that my 40 minute rule was good because I don't take long breaks...... usually 30 seconds and I'm on the next set or exercise. But where I am dangerously lacking is cardio. I hate the treadmill and elliptical.....I try running but I can't stay consistent. That's why I am aiming for 4hrs of cardio a week.....I can chop it up however I want to....an hr here, 20 minutes there, 10 minutes over there....JUST GET IT IN!!! I'm good for 2 weeks in a row achieving this goal. Wish me luck that I keep up.......My body has never gotten to that place where I feel funny if I haven't worked out......I want to get to that point.
Third....NUTRITION. Did I mention that I my eating habits are crap? They really are. The only times I eat a balanced meal is when I get the daily special from Deli on the Green, when some girlfiriends and I get together and have dinner or when mother is in town or I visit her. I have passed the fast food junkie stage....that's not my issue. My issue is that I don't prepare fresh green veggies and my meal combinations are weird. Who eats bologna and cereal for dinner? I do. salami & crackers with cream cheese and jelly? me again. a bag of that minute garlic & herb rice? you guessed it again ME. WTF? why the face? Why do I find it so hard to make and eat a balanced meal? I love veggies......I just hate making food for myself. And then I get tired of the leftovers. That's why one of my goals for this year is to try a new recipe a week.....just to get me in the habit of actually preparing food and not just throwing whatever is fast and in the kitchen together. This may be the hardest to accomplish. Maybe I should invite a different friend over for dinner once a week....that may also encourage me to keep my house clean........hmmmmmm
So what does that entail? First...WATER. I absolutely must give my body the fuel it needs to survive. I sometimes add a little Crystal Light to my BubbaKeg(by the way, they are the BOMB for meeting your water requirements) when I need some pizazz. But I have researched and found that I need 10 eight ounce glasses of water daily to remain hydrated and flushed. Now some of that can and will come from the foods that I consume, but to have a daily goal of 10 glasses is the right start. Have I done it yet? Not quite. But I got the BubbaKeg and I just came up with the goal last week so give me a minute to put it in practice :)
Second....CARDIO. I am actually very good at my resistance training. I typically go 1 to 2 times a week and use the weights, but I only do it for 30 to 40 minutes. I am not in the gym all day...I have important things like eating, shopping, happy hour and sleeping to do. And please forget getting up in the morning(as has been suggested) and starting my day off with a good 40 minute exercise. The bed feels too good. But after further review, it appears I am doing the proper number of sets and full body exercises necessary for strength training. I was even told that my 40 minute rule was good because I don't take long breaks...... usually 30 seconds and I'm on the next set or exercise. But where I am dangerously lacking is cardio. I hate the treadmill and elliptical.....I try running but I can't stay consistent. That's why I am aiming for 4hrs of cardio a week.....I can chop it up however I want to....an hr here, 20 minutes there, 10 minutes over there....JUST GET IT IN!!! I'm good for 2 weeks in a row achieving this goal. Wish me luck that I keep up.......My body has never gotten to that place where I feel funny if I haven't worked out......I want to get to that point.
Third....NUTRITION. Did I mention that I my eating habits are crap? They really are. The only times I eat a balanced meal is when I get the daily special from Deli on the Green, when some girlfiriends and I get together and have dinner or when mother is in town or I visit her. I have passed the fast food junkie stage....that's not my issue. My issue is that I don't prepare fresh green veggies and my meal combinations are weird. Who eats bologna and cereal for dinner? I do. salami & crackers with cream cheese and jelly? me again. a bag of that minute garlic & herb rice? you guessed it again ME. WTF? why the face? Why do I find it so hard to make and eat a balanced meal? I love veggies......I just hate making food for myself. And then I get tired of the leftovers. That's why one of my goals for this year is to try a new recipe a week.....just to get me in the habit of actually preparing food and not just throwing whatever is fast and in the kitchen together. This may be the hardest to accomplish. Maybe I should invite a different friend over for dinner once a week....that may also encourage me to keep my house clean........hmmmmmm
If I accomplish my goals I get a prize!! How am I measuring this goal? By body fat/BMI. Forget what the scale says but to get my body into an energy producing, fat blasting, hydrated machine. I really don't know how else to measure, this seems to be the best way. My target date is 6/30/11 because I MUST stay consistent. I have a very realistic goal and looking only to drop 3% BMI, but if I don't set my goal until the end of the year, I will be lax until after the summer. As I stated earlier, I have made a conscious goal this year to get my body used to being treated well, so that it just won't accept anything else. Perhaps that will flow to other parts of my life as well.......
Thursday, February 3, 2011
Update #2
I met my cardio goal last week! WOO HOO! ok, let me not get too excited........ That's only 1 week down and this week ain't looking so good. But, if I get my lazy bones and go to spin class today, I know I can get my 4 hrs. in for the week. Ok, its settled, I'm going! Plus the instructor is kind of cute. Actually, I'm just telling myself that because I really don't know what he looks like. I sit in the back and sweat runs all down my eyes and I can barely keep my head up. But he does have nice arms :) Hopefully that's enough to make me want to go to class. I probably should learn his name.
Babies are everywhere!! Two of my friends just welcomed newborn boys into the world...... all together now - - - awwwwww(sigh). I joined twitter this week to. Follow me @amikable2002.......I have no clue what I'm doing or the purpose but I'm trying it out. So, I did well on my cardio, bought my ticket to NOLA for 4th of July, and did my taxes. I really need to work on finishing my book club selection and taking my shoes to get fixed.......CIAA is coming up soon and my black shoes would be fierce for a Thursday night party. After that, the heels will be retired for the rest of the weekend. By the way, I need to start planning my CIAA festivities. I need to get in CIAA shape, and not like losing weight or anything but ENDURANCE. It takes a lot of energy to dance for 4 hrs straight!!!
Why did my taxi driver from NY call last weekend? are you serious? i gave you my number to secure a ride to the airport, not for you to start calling me and say you are in Greensboro for the weekend and I should come down........nah
Babies are everywhere!! Two of my friends just welcomed newborn boys into the world...... all together now - - - awwwwww(sigh). I joined twitter this week to. Follow me @amikable2002.......I have no clue what I'm doing or the purpose but I'm trying it out. So, I did well on my cardio, bought my ticket to NOLA for 4th of July, and did my taxes. I really need to work on finishing my book club selection and taking my shoes to get fixed.......CIAA is coming up soon and my black shoes would be fierce for a Thursday night party. After that, the heels will be retired for the rest of the weekend. By the way, I need to start planning my CIAA festivities. I need to get in CIAA shape, and not like losing weight or anything but ENDURANCE. It takes a lot of energy to dance for 4 hrs straight!!!
Why did my taxi driver from NY call last weekend? are you serious? i gave you my number to secure a ride to the airport, not for you to start calling me and say you are in Greensboro for the weekend and I should come down........nah
Sunday, January 23, 2011
Update #1
This has been a CRAZY 2 weeks!!!! I have made several dents into my goals for 2011. Over the MLK weekend I travelled to NYC with 3 of my childhood girlfriends :) We went shopping, ATE, took a helicopter ride, ATE and chit chatted. Seriously, I ate a LOT. From sushi, to curry shrimp, to chicken parmigiana and chicken & waffles, I ate 2 weeks of my caloric intake in 3 days! I definitely need to detox. So this week, I have planned out all my meals. By the way, those frozen vegetables by Green Giant are the BEST! Not only are they tasty, but I get my green vegetable intake and can prepare them in less than 10 minutes. lovin it :) I am trying out a new recipe this week, and hope it turns out better than my lobster pasta from the past week. In my defense, it wasn't that awful. I didn't have all the necessary ingredients to make it work and I was snowed in so I couldn't run to the grocery store once I started. But I did learn something new, Rotel is an EXCELLENT sub for fresh diced tomato; much quicker and easier with the same great taste. I just needed another can or some tomato paste to thicken the sauce.
I have to register to get a certified copy of my freedom papers this week. They have been working me like a slave; like they did not get the notice that I have been set free. It is a BUSY time for me as we are in the middle of planning out our fiscal year. It should slow down in the next week or two and then pick up crazy again as we try to finish off the present fiscal year.
So I have made some progress on travelling, logging some pictures, trying out a new recipe and I even went to the gym 2 times this week.........but I failed on getting in good cardio and have only put a dent in my book club selection. The dating story is actually pretty funny this week.........so I was macked by a pastor. Yep, you heard it right, a pastor tried to holla at me in the Harris Teeter parking lot. So here's the scene..... I had just checked out of the self service lane and was heading outside. An older man in a 3 piece gray suit smiled and said, "you know they have shopping carts". I smiled back and said "yeah I know, I really wasn't planning on buying this much " and left the store. I had to do some re-arranging and look up directions in the parking lot so I was still outside when he left the store. Of course he proceeds to my car and starts to chit chat some more. Then comes the killer; he asks if I am married and then proceeds to ask why not. Which is a foolish question to me; why don't I have red hair? why don't I have black nail polish? That's just not the situation right now. But on this day I chose the answer that God hasn't sent him to me yet. Well then he starts to say that we did not meet by chance and this was divine because he is a pastor at a church up north. Now, he didn't have a chance in the first place - not that I am superficial person, but he had on a 3 piece, long jacket suit and was NOT born in the 70's !!!! But he definitely was out the picture now that he announced he was a pastor. Is that wrong of me? I am definitely looking for a spiritual mate who is looking to grow in faith, but I don't think I can date a pastor. I drink wine, I dance, I like secular music, and I detest long praise and worship programs. Pray for me!
I have to register to get a certified copy of my freedom papers this week. They have been working me like a slave; like they did not get the notice that I have been set free. It is a BUSY time for me as we are in the middle of planning out our fiscal year. It should slow down in the next week or two and then pick up crazy again as we try to finish off the present fiscal year.
So I have made some progress on travelling, logging some pictures, trying out a new recipe and I even went to the gym 2 times this week.........but I failed on getting in good cardio and have only put a dent in my book club selection. The dating story is actually pretty funny this week.........so I was macked by a pastor. Yep, you heard it right, a pastor tried to holla at me in the Harris Teeter parking lot. So here's the scene..... I had just checked out of the self service lane and was heading outside. An older man in a 3 piece gray suit smiled and said, "you know they have shopping carts". I smiled back and said "yeah I know, I really wasn't planning on buying this much " and left the store. I had to do some re-arranging and look up directions in the parking lot so I was still outside when he left the store. Of course he proceeds to my car and starts to chit chat some more. Then comes the killer; he asks if I am married and then proceeds to ask why not. Which is a foolish question to me; why don't I have red hair? why don't I have black nail polish? That's just not the situation right now. But on this day I chose the answer that God hasn't sent him to me yet. Well then he starts to say that we did not meet by chance and this was divine because he is a pastor at a church up north. Now, he didn't have a chance in the first place - not that I am superficial person, but he had on a 3 piece, long jacket suit and was NOT born in the 70's !!!! But he definitely was out the picture now that he announced he was a pastor. Is that wrong of me? I am definitely looking for a spiritual mate who is looking to grow in faith, but I don't think I can date a pastor. I drink wine, I dance, I like secular music, and I detest long praise and worship programs. Pray for me!
Monday, January 10, 2011
My Vision Statement for 2011
Yesterday, I went to an event entitled "Dreams" that is hosted by my friend every year. It is meant to help a group of women focus on their goals and vision for their life in the upcoming year and beyond. It challenges us set a plan for how we want our life to be. So, on this snowy day, I have developed my vision statement and list of goals for 2011. I may not accomplish them all but I think its a good start. This year's blog postings will be about my progress on these goals (and of course other randomness : ) So here goes..........
I AM THE CEO OF ANDREA NICOLE HARPER ENTERPRISES. I HAVE THE ABSOLUTE AND SOLE AUTHORITY TO FIRE ANY EMPLOYEES/CONTRACTORS THAT I DEEM TOXIC TO THE WORKPLACE, ARE UNPRODUCTIVE, OR THAT EXCESSIVELY USE BENEFITS WITHOUT RECIPROCAL PERFORMANCE.
I ALSO HAVE THE ULTIMATE RESPONSIBILITY TO HIRE EMPLOYEES WHO ARE ALIGNED WITH THE COMPANY'S GOALS AND VALUES; THOSE WHO ADD VALUE TO THE BOTTOM LINE. I AM IN CHARGE OF ASSIGNING ROLES AND RESPONSIBILITIES IN THE COMPANY TO THOSE EMPLOYEES WHO I DEEM FIT AND CAPABLE. I WILL NOT APOLOGIZE FOR DECISIONS MADE IN THE BEST INTEREST OF THE COMPANY AND WILL NOT RECRUIT/RETAIN EMPLOYEES WHO DO NOT WANT TO BE A PART OF THE TEAM.
I AM AN EMOTIONAL, COMPASSIONATE, AND INTROSPECTIVE WOMAN WHO HAS BEEN CAREFULLY AND PURPOSEFULLY MADE. I AM PLEASED AT THE WORK BEING CREATED IN ANDREA NICOLE HARPER ENTERPRISES.
In 2011, I will:
Be open, thoughtfully
Give my body the things it needs to work well
Be the primary source of my confidence
And finally, my list. I may not do them all, some have no rhyme or reason, many were suggested by "friends" and some are just for fun!
31 Things to do Before I'm 32
1. Read 32 books
2. Blog weekly
3. Run five 5ks
4. Run an entire 5k
5. Log 140 hrs. of cardio
6. See my niece dance
7. Get my shoes fixed
8. Ski/tube
9. Visit fam in Memphis - August tix purchased - they moved :(
10. Finish vision board
11. Create my lounge
12. Create my guestroom
13. Write mission/vision statement
14. Travel to Asheville
15. Volunteer at high schools
16. Go on 5 trips -
17. Log 300 pictures
18. Become more than financially active in my sorority
19. Get my JP Morgan statement & P&G shares in an account
20. Get clothes down to one double hamper
21. Kiss passionately
22. Make 1 recipe a week ....46 Total - prob 30 :(
23. Make all medical appointments
24. Take advanced swimming lessons -
25. Try 10 brunch spots
26. Go to painting class
27. Visit my uncle 3 times
28. Host 3 things at my house
29. Go to Bobcats game alone
30. Go on 4 confirmed dates
31. Babysit for a mom
I AM THE CEO OF ANDREA NICOLE HARPER ENTERPRISES. I HAVE THE ABSOLUTE AND SOLE AUTHORITY TO FIRE ANY EMPLOYEES/CONTRACTORS THAT I DEEM TOXIC TO THE WORKPLACE, ARE UNPRODUCTIVE, OR THAT EXCESSIVELY USE BENEFITS WITHOUT RECIPROCAL PERFORMANCE.
I ALSO HAVE THE ULTIMATE RESPONSIBILITY TO HIRE EMPLOYEES WHO ARE ALIGNED WITH THE COMPANY'S GOALS AND VALUES; THOSE WHO ADD VALUE TO THE BOTTOM LINE. I AM IN CHARGE OF ASSIGNING ROLES AND RESPONSIBILITIES IN THE COMPANY TO THOSE EMPLOYEES WHO I DEEM FIT AND CAPABLE. I WILL NOT APOLOGIZE FOR DECISIONS MADE IN THE BEST INTEREST OF THE COMPANY AND WILL NOT RECRUIT/RETAIN EMPLOYEES WHO DO NOT WANT TO BE A PART OF THE TEAM.
I AM AN EMOTIONAL, COMPASSIONATE, AND INTROSPECTIVE WOMAN WHO HAS BEEN CAREFULLY AND PURPOSEFULLY MADE. I AM PLEASED AT THE WORK BEING CREATED IN ANDREA NICOLE HARPER ENTERPRISES.
In 2011, I will:
Be open, thoughtfully
Give my body the things it needs to work well
Be the primary source of my confidence
And finally, my list. I may not do them all, some have no rhyme or reason, many were suggested by "friends" and some are just for fun!
31 Things to do Before I'm 32
1. Read 32 books
2. Blog weekly
3. Run five 5ks
4. Run an entire 5k
5. Log 140 hrs. of cardio
6. See my niece dance
7. Get my shoes fixed
8. Ski/tube
9. Visit fam in Memphis - August tix purchased - they moved :(
10. Finish vision board
11. Create my lounge
12. Create my guestroom
13. Write mission/vision statement
14. Travel to Asheville
15. Volunteer at high schools
16. Go on 5 trips -
17. Log 300 pictures
18. Become more than financially active in my sorority
19. Get my JP Morgan statement & P&G shares in an account
20. Get clothes down to one double hamper
21. Kiss passionately
22. Make 1 recipe a week ....46 Total - prob 30 :(
23. Make all medical appointments
24. Take advanced swimming lessons -
25. Try 10 brunch spots
26. Go to painting class
27. Visit my uncle 3 times
28. Host 3 things at my house
29. Go to Bobcats game alone
30. Go on 4 confirmed dates
31. Babysit for a mom
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