Monday, August 22, 2011

Is it Tyler Perry’s Fault???

I have heard several people say that they do not support Tyler Perry films because it portrays an image of black people as foolish, black men as abusers, and because they all have the same storyline.  While I wholeheartedly agree that the story line in many of his movies is the same, I take away a different sentiment about his work.  While I think Tyler Perry has learned to be a great business man, entrepreneur and even producer through his writing of stage plays and movies, I’ve never thought of him as a great playwright.    He writes the story he knows, and has garnered a huge following.  Why should he change the formula?  Ok, I hear you.  That was fine for his first 2 movies, but now since he has such a mass following, doesn’t he owe it to the community to flip the script? Shouldn’t he write more socially conscious films that paint a more positive picture of the community?  Well, I would argue that he does….In the midst of Madea and the abusive black man, there is always the God fearing man who loves the woman thru her pain and doesn’t believe in sex before marriage, there is always a professional degreed character, and Madea always letting somebody down stay with her rent free.   Somebody always finds God and changes their life.  LOL!  Pretty predictive J  So then he tried to change it up a bit, with “Daddy’s Little Girls” “Why did I get Married” series and my personal favorite “The Family that Preys.”  But ultimately, even in part of those films, he goes back to his old formula.  And I am totally convinced it’s because that’s what he knows to write.  Spike Lee, although he had different story lines, wrote in the same voice thru all of his written films.  I can even see that in the movies that Denzel produced….they have a niche that works for them and they work with it. 
I think the REAL issue with Tyler Perry is that he is the ONLY vision of us that is being shown in the movies.   Hollywood is filled with varying images from gangster to villain to family man to idiot to genius of mainstream America, so one image is not taken as overly offensive or how EVERYONE acts.  I don’t remember too many white people getting upset at “Harold and Kumar go to White Castle”  And that’s because there are sooo many different depictions of them on screen that stoned out teenagers don’t bother them.  So whose fault is that?  Is it Tyler’s?  Or is it our fault for not supporting films such as “The Great Debaters” “Antwone Fisher” and “Rosewood” as we do/did “Boyz in the Hood”  “Baby Boy” and “Diary of a Mad Black Woman”  Now I am not talking negatively about any of these films…I saw and enjoyed them all.  But how do we get varying images of ourselves on the big screen?  We are not a one dimensional people, and I honestly don’t think Tyler has the writing talent to even begin to portray us varied ways.   But he does have the studio and production capabilities….
Just my two cents…….and I write this while watching “Welcome to Death Row”, a documentary about the personalities and rise and fall of Death Row Records

Friday, August 19, 2011

Really Random Thoughts.....

Just a few random thoughts and questions that have come across my mind this week.....

Can I listen to Maybach music in my Ford Fusion?
How thick is too thick?  Is there such a thing?....for some, apparently not
I now understand why my mother drinks a spoonful of apple cider vinegar whenever she eats pork.....from  the roota to the toota is a lot of pig
I am going to stop fighting it, and give in to one of these old men....apparently it's my destiny that I need to accept
When did I become so bougie??  This has to end.....I can hardly afford myself
If you can't drop it off before 10:00 then don't worry about it.....you ain't slick sucka
Although I don't always display it, I am an etiquette expert....need to start a school for young girls.....my mother purchases EVERY update to Miss Manners and others...smh
If I could cut a layer outta my lower stomach, I'd be alright......but I'm not gone eat right to do that, so I guess the layer stays...LOL...rather have cracklin, fries & chocolate & camouflage the stomach
Am I too grown to still get crushes?  Are they my excuse not to get emotionally involved in a relationship? Am I even that deep?  LOL
I went into the wrong profession....home repair is where its at.....

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Random Thoughts........

1. Healthy is the new sexy
2. I used to be an EXCELLENT budgeter.....could work $650 a month like it was my JOB!!!  but then I got bougie...now I am going to force myself to take out in cash my budget for food, groceries, and clothes for the month....once I spend that envelope, its gone.  Gotta get back to budgeting beast mode : )
3. I can't curl my hair....never really did it, so never really learned.  Now I am teaching myself b/c after I work out my hair is SOAKED.  I have to dry and curl and wrap all over again
4.  Ever since I turned 30 I sweat...I mean 5 minutes of cardio and I am wiping my forehead.  By the end of my zumba class, my hair/head is soaked but the rest of me is ok.....
5.  I use everyday of vacation.....and a few more!! I don't let any day go to waste...trust me, they wouldn't give me more than I deserved so I'm taking them all
6. I can't believe I am reading this "hood" series about "Wifey".....is anyone else as sucked in as I am??  I refuse to buy book 4 until next month, not going over my Netflix/Itunes/books budget
7. kinda wants to put herself on that show "what do you look like naked?"  or something like that.......I need a crash course
8. I am always hungry....i think i have a tapeworm
9.  I REALLY need to clean my house before my mother comes to visit next month.....don't want to hear all the complaining/advice
10.  spends a grip on Bo's daycare/boarding.....they always hit me up for the playcare.....

Tuesday, August 9, 2011

Welcome to MIAMI!!!

I have just returned from my annual girl's trip.  This year we took our talents to South Beach and had a BLAST in Miami : )  There are a lot of cute areas in South Beach.  I really enjoyed Espionola Way and Lincoln Rd the most.  They were full of shops and restaurants with beautifully decorated gardens and tons of outside seating.  I have no idea what the "club scene" in Miami is because there were too many lines, LOL!  we ended up in lobbies of posh and bustling hotels to enjoy our nightlife.  The spa experience was AMAZING!!!  My skin felt baby soft after my massage and salt scrub.  I should start doing start scrubs at home weekly......wonder how much of a mess I would make?????   I had the BEST white sangria ever at this spot on Ocean Blvd. YUMMY :) I also saw one of the most disturbing things in my life, but I can't mention it here.  I shudder to even think about it.

So after all this food and fun, I am sure my 1% down is now negative.  LOL!  I can't win for losing.  But I am not giving up.  I will go back to eating sensibly and increase my cardio.  I will get 3% body fat off of me,  I will get 3% body fat off of me.

My calendar is filling up FAST!  August and October are booked solid.....and most of it is in Charlotte.  Between Junior League, AKA, and NBMBA I am booked with meetings, conferences and retreats.  I need to find a way to export my Outlook calendar to my iPhone so I will always be up to date.  Is this possible??  Does any one know how to do it???  Please and Thanks!

My fade is growing out fast.  It has quickly become some sort of fro.  I am really enjoying this journey.  I have a new look everyday it seems.  And I never noticed how much I like my neck.  I know its a weird body part to admire, but its long without being giraffe like.  Who knew??  Its funny too, a male friend of mine mentioned that I probably wouldn't get much play/attention from men because guys liked longer hair.......I found it interesting because my hair hasn't been long since I was a teenager.  But if he was referring to my usual length, I wasn't really getting any play/attention then so I haven't noticed a difference yet.  LOL


Tuesday, August 2, 2011

1% Down!!!! 2% to go

Well I have done it....it's official.  I have lost 1% body fat.  WOO HOO!  I am excited, I am transforming my body into a lean, mean energy burning machine.  But here is the issue....do you know how long it took me to do it???  darn near 3 months!!!  I assumed it would take 3 weeks.  LOL!  But the articles/books/web said that it should only take a month.  The articles also told me to cut out sweets, increase my veg intake, no fried or fast foods and no alcohol.  Guess that's why it took a little longer.  But I am on my way now.  I can see the goal and I'm committed to being 3% down by October 31st.   That way, I can get my jewelry for my Christmas present : )  Maybe it will even be on SALE.......although I highly doubt it. 

I have just finished 2 great books, definite must reads!!!  The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks and The Hunger Games.  Actually I have just finished 4 great books because I had to read the 2 sequels to the Hunger Games.  Also recently read A Belle in Brooklyn and enjoyed it as well.  For a brief synopsis:

The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks - poor black woman who died of cancer, but whose cells were "stolen" for research that lead to vaccines for polio, treatments for cancer and other life saving procedures.  But the family was not told nor asked.  While Henrietta's cells are have been reproduced to circle the Earth many times over, her family can barely afford healthcare

The Hunger Games - in a post apocalyptic America, each district must send 2 of their children to compete in hunger games, a fight to the death, to be televised for the Capital's enjoyment and to keep the districts in submission to the Capital.  Katniss, volunteers in her younger sister's place and changes the landscape of her world

A Belle in Brooklyn - relationship editor of Essence magazine talks about happily dating and single life : )

Here is my only quip with A Belle in Brooklyn, and maybe I am just hating, please let me know.  But she met and had access to a PLETHORA of desirable and eligible young black men...........maybe in New York but not down here....LOL.  Or should I say I don't run into or meet them.  I can count on one hand (ok, maybe 2) the number of uncommitted YOUNG black men I know here.  I know they are around, just not sure where they hang.  Or maybe its because I hang with a bunch of women, LOL!!!